So I'm looking back on happenings of my past and really don't know whether I should bother with an idea that keeps eating at me. Is it wrong/pointless/naive to contact someone, even if you know it is just going to be ignored or deleted, if only for the closure it brings you? (TMNS)
Hey friend,
It's not all pointless to contact someone if it brings you closure.In fact, I would say that that is probably the best reason to contactsomeone. Sometimes, I have written letters to someone just with theintention of expressing how I feel. I didn't even send most of thoseletters, but instead ripped them up or burned them as a way ofsignifying my moving on from that relationship.
If you think that they will not respond, then I would say go aheadand send your message. However, if there is a possibility that theywill respond poorly, I would consider carefully if it is worthsending that message. I found that instead of bringing closure, whenI receive negative responses, it causes more problems than if I hadjust not contacted them in the first place.
You know the people you are thinking about contacting better than Ido, so you will have a better sense on how they will respond to yourmessage. Just take some time to consider how they might respond, andhow it would affect you if they were to respond in each way. If youdon't think you could handle a negative response, consider writing amessage as if you were going to send it to them and then don't sendit to them. However, if you think you will get closure or matter whatresponse you receive, go ahead and send it to them.
Good luck, and don't hesitate to reach out if you need help in thisin the future.
“What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality.”
~Mel