#coping up

[sassy-sugarbabe-blog]

Everytime I feel overwhelmed,

I stop and pause what I am doing.

Take a slow deep breath.

Observed my thoughts, emotions and physical sensations.

Then Proceed with a one-thing focused.

[amnyh]

What makes you happy makes you sad too.

Choose what can make you happy, and you're apparently choosing the intensity with which you could get hurt.

[jannepaule]

Coping up in the Home Quarantine Season

It's only the tenth day (as of writing) since the enhanced community quarantine was implemented in Luzon and I am already bored, and it’s coming from someone who rarely goes out. ME.

My best friend who is a fellow home buddy and I were talking about it and we concluded that maybe, not having the option to “go out” is what makes us feel this way. Robin Scherbatsky’s words, “it’s one thing not to want something but it’s another to be told that you can’t have it” is the perfect analogy in this situation. Even if you are someone who doesn’t like going out, having the option that you are free to go if you need to or in case you change your mind makes things feel normal but now staying home is must. But we are doing to it not just for ourselves but the people around us. 

This is not to say that I am complaining. I am not and I have no right to. I know for a fact that compared to the front liners who are risking their lives out there— I am well damn too lucky and privileged to be complaining about my situation. I am blessed to be working for a company (s/o Reed Elsevier Philippines) that allows me to work from home. 

This is just me channeling my energy in writing and trying to make sense how I feel, a way of coping up I’d say. I was even trying to write about how social media affects our lives in the time of pandemic, but I get too overwhelmed with the flow of information on my screen.

Still I think at some point, we're allowed to admit we're all down to a pit of boredom that we find ways to cope up with it one way or another. 

For a lot of people, you'd know you hit a certain level of boredom when you start Tiktok. It's evident in the recent spike in the number of users since the quarantine started. Not that it's wrong especially when the popular app donated $10 million to WHO in response to corona virus outbreak but still let’s not forget that Tiktok posted cyber security threats against the data privacy of its users so I guess it’s just a matter of choice and responsibility.

For me and my friends, we cope up by keeping ourselves entertained (or distracted #tbh) with all the Enrile memes flooding our news feed extended to our own group chat. You can see that Filipinos’ creativity is running wild in creating these memes with all the free time at home. It’s an internet comic relief amidst the all the bad news. It's the only thing that makes me happy and laugh these days.

Everything is so funny that we almost forget that that the 96-year-old man on the memes is the same politician who was charged with 15 counts of graft on the Pork Barrel Scam but was later granted bail by the Supreme Court. The same man who had a long political career and awful history of being one of Marcos's cronies (SC also dismissed the case against him and others, so yep. We’re screwed)

Nonetheless, the memes are funny. Battling boredom through Tiktok videos seem to work for many. We find ways to cope up during these hard times and although there are much pressing issues to focus on, I hope we don’t get too distracted that we become irresponsible social media users and to an extent that we forget our history.

Sources:

https://media.thinknum.com/articles/tiktoks-user-base-grows-as-people-self-quarantine/

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/01/08/technology/tiktok-security-flaws.html

https://www.rappler.com/previous-articles?filterMeta=Enrile%20plunder

 Photos in the banner are from Facebook. Credits to rightful owners.

[pearlsandprepp]

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What To Do When It's All Over: Coping Strategies For Couples Going Through A Divorce

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Most people never expect to get divorced. Sadly, sometimes, relationships don’t work, and couples decide to go their separate ways. When you hear about divorce, you think about acrimony and arguments, but not all break-ups are caused by disagreements or betrayal. Often, people realize that things aren’t working or they are simply aren’t in love with their partner anymore.

There’s an assumption that divorce has to be a messy process, but this is not always the case. There will, of course, be tough days, but it is possible to cope with divorce. If you’re in the process of separating, hopefully, this guide will prove helpful.

Coping with the practicalities

When you think about divorce, you often focus on the emotional rollercoaster, but there are practical concerns to bear in mind. Marriage is a legal agreement, and you have to go through specific processes to get a divorce. It can take time, and there may be complications. Perhaps you and your partner are on good terms, and you’ve already decided what you want to do in terms of custody and splitting assets. However, life is not always simple, and for many couples, there are bumps in the road to negotiate. Things may not have ended well, you may not have spoken for months, and there may be disagreements to resolve. The most important thing to do when you’re considering a divorce is to seek legal help from firms like thetexasdivorcelawyer.com. The more information you can gather about the process, the better placed you are to cope with what’s going to happen in the months ahead.

When you’re feeling sad or lonely, the last thing you may want to focus on is what’s going to happen to your home or business. But the sooner you sort out the practicalities, the better. If you have the right people in your corner, this will save you a lot of stress and anxiety.

Dealing with emotional stress

Nobody goes through a divorce without having to deal with emotional stress. Even if it was your call to end the relationship, you may experience a broad spectrum of emotions, and you’ll probably have days when you feel incredibly low. At this time, it’s important to lean on the people who are there for you. If you’ve got friends offering a shoulder to cry on or your mom is desperate to lend a hand, let them in. Don’t cut yourself off from the world and try and soldier on alone.

Breaking up with somebody you thought you would spend the rest of your life with can be heartbreaking. If you’re struggling, it can be helpful to talk about your feelings with somebody who is trained to listen and help you cope. Seeing a therapist enables you to express yourself, and to be honest without worrying about being judged or being a burden to others. We all respond to difficult life events in different ways. Give yourself time to heal, and don’t feel pressured to move on if you’re not ready. For more tips to help you survive darker days, visit http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/separation-and-divorce.

If your relationship is over, you may be experiencing a range of emotions. Coping may seem impossible at times, but you will get there. Seek advice from legal experts, don’t be afraid to ask for or accept help, and surround yourself with people who have your best interests at heart.

[turtleglassinslowmotion]

Coping Up

Generally speaking, you will only see the goodness of life if you'll open your mind to all possibilities. If you have been wronged once, it doesn't mean that you will have to face mishaps for the rest of your life. There's what we call change: the only thing that's permanent in this world. To cope with the ever-changing world, all we need to do is move along with it, move forward and don't let the past intervene your present and your future.

[storymirror]

Movies to Watch to Overcome the Loss of a Relationship

Movies to Watch to Overcome the Loss of a Relationship

The loss of a relationship can be traumatic and emotionally exhausting. In such cases people look forward to new avenues in life to overcome despair. It’s common to be in the blue for some time, but each one of us have a different reaction to such situations and need to cope in different ways. Following are some movies that can give you the much needed healing touch if you have just hit a rough…

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[letsgonakedunderthestars-blog]

The most effective way for me to cope up and contemplate with my life is by... walking. Yes, naglakad ako mula PUP STA.MESA hanggang Madrid, Binondo. I'm not problematic or depressed at the moment. Gusto ko lang mag-isip at ikumpara yung buhay ko dati sa buhay ko ngayon. Ah yes, I've been through a lot. Tuwing problemado ako noon, nung 2nd year college, lagi rin akong naglalakad ng ganyan kalayo or minsan mas maikli ng konti. Yun yung mga panahon na gustong-gusto ko nang sumuko sa pag-aaral ko. Noong brokenhearted naman ako, nagjogging lang ako well actually takbo na yung ginawa ko, tumakbo lang ako ng tumakbo hanggang sa maintindihan at matanggap ko yung sitwasyon. I'm this crazy pero kung hindi ko ginawa yung mga yun, malamang magulo pa rin ang buhay ko ngayon. For me, life is about choices & moving forward so I chose to do it by moving, literally because I want to feel and reconnect with my physical being, I want to use my senses, I need to understand life and start anew.

[hesitantalien13]

You start to feel healed when you're less tired and started painting your nails black again.

N.R. Winters