We survived the holidays and our judgmental family and friends... fiiiuu 💪🏻🥳🙌🏻 It’s been a struggle for some, I know. Among our community we have quite a buzz around which parenting style is best, how this parent/partner or the other acts about this and that. The list goes on and on. Parenting is chock-full of approximately 1,000 choices a day. Rarely do we fit into one style or the other any longer than a 3-year-old boy (or 36-year-old husband) can keep his underwear clean. Parenting styles ebb and flow with who we are as people and often, more importantly, who our child is. It is not static. I am baffled by labels telling us otherwise. See, #criticism makes parents feel incompetent, and makes it more likely they will react in ways that are harsh. This leads to children feeling ashamed and bad—leading to more negative child behaviors. It’s a lose-lose all the way around; and a very counterproductive domino effect. After all I always remind myself to Trust Myself: We know our child and what he needs when he’s having a hard time. It’s not our job to please the judgers, it’s our job to raise a child who can cope with life’s frustrations and disappointments, and who knows we have his back. 👉🏻Message to parents—don’t fear the judgers. Tune them out and stay focused on what your child is struggling with and what she needs from you to cope. 👉🏻Message to judgers—if you love and want to support kids, you’ve got to love and support their parents. The way you treat parents affects the way they treat their kids. Now it is your turn. How do you cope with judgement? No need to have kids to join the conversation 😉 Thanks @broken_isnt_bad for your lovely and thoughtful illustration. • • • • #lifehacks #curvysocial #parentingstyles #parenting #instaparenting #familycelebrations #youandmeinthistogether #nomamescabron #familydynamics #systemicmanagement #mindfull #curvys #Latinas #curvesarebeautiful #solutionsforkids #judgementalpeople (at Madrid, Spain) https://www.instagram.com/p/BsmOk3YhiSA/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1pxstx74hwybv
