#dangan advice

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hhi,, uhm,, im really sorry to be bothering anyone,, but, uhm, i know its a long time away, but im rreally worried about school,, i love summer because i get to enjoy it with my outt of school ffriends,, but i literally,, have no friends at school,, im really really worried about that,, and was wondering if you had any tips on mmaking friends in a sschool environment??

Ah, nice to meet you Anon-san!

Hmmm… maybe you can try blending in with the people in your school, and interact with them more, try to be more open and friendly towards others.. this could make them want to get to you better..

First impression is also important…! I’m not good at self-introductions but you should try getting others to have a good impression of you after summer ends.. you would want people to think highly of you which can boost your chances of approaching others easily..

S..so.. you should try to build up your confidence and self-thoughts to make it easy for you to make friends.. self-thoughts and confidence maybe play a role since with that confidence you can do anything without your insecurity holding you back from what you want to do…

But, it’s alright if you don’t have any friends at the first day of school… there are still many days for you to make many friends…! Don’t let your lack of friends discourage you because I know you can do it..

Heh heh. I hope you can make many friends in school when summer ends Anon-san..!

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I'm thinking of posting my art online soon. The idea of posting, though, makes me really frightful; I worry about all sorts of things, from being insulted about what I post to people just not enjoying what I do and taking it upon themselves to tell me. I don't know how to deal with criticism well, either. It always makes me panic. Do you guys have any tips on staying calm?

Tips on staying calm? I think I can help you with that. 

Well, Anon, its natural to be worried over posting your art online. Sometimes, the internet can be a pretty scary place with all its negativity but I think you’re focusing too much on the negatives. I bet there’ll be plenty of people who’ll think that your art is amazing and I bet it’ll be pretty amazing! Sometimes, there will be people who say to you that they don’t enjoy what you do but you gotta learn to ignore them. Everyone may get it at least once but don’t let that get you down! I'm sure they're just people who speak nonsense, only aim to insult your art and get you down.

Ehehe, another thing you could do is consider tips like a step. Imagine art as stairs. Each drawing you draw, you climb those stairs and improve. You could also respectfully put in the description of your art that you don't wish to have a critique. People will have to respect that. Other tips you could have for staying calm is thinking more about the positive side. Sure there will be negatives, but like I said earlier, I'm sure many people will love your art. Not everyone will like you posting your art online, but I'm sure lots of people will! Friends can give you little tips while pointing out positives in your art instead of it being a huge critique of only flaws, y'know?

Well, I hope this helps Anon! Be sure to come back if you have any more worries. We'll be sure to help you again. I hope this helped!

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uhhh this is for Nanami or Leon i guess?? i've been really down in the dumps lately and i wondered if you had any tips for cheering yourself up when you're feeling shitty. i don't think it's depression, because the sadness isn't extreme and I don't self-harm or anything, but this sadness is kinda affecting my will to do anything?? im worried about some important exams ive got in a few weeks, because im not studying at all. im too sad to study, for lack of a better way to phrase it // thanks <3

Ways to cheer yourself up..? ..I can help with that.. What I do when I'm sad is I play games. It's a good way to distract yourself from reality and relieve stress. Animal Crossing is a good idea for a game to play..

You could also try watching some cartoons or some funny cartoons. Funny things always cheer me up. You could try Tom and Jerry, or The Amazing World of Gumball. Anything that makes you happy, or other funny anime and such.

I'd also recommend talking to someone about it.. I may not be in the situation you're in, but venting to a friend is a good way to go. Listening to music is good too. You could try watching some cat videos too. 

Also, please don't worry too much about the exams. Your happiness comes before any exam. It may not be depression, but that doesn't mean it won't matter! If you're too sad to study all at once, try to do it with a friend after you've cheered up to be motivated. Do a little bit each day so you don't get stressed or sad again. Remember - your happiness comes before any test. 

Try taking all negativity out of your life and surround yourself with positivity. Don't rush yourself to be happy again, take your time. Sadness won't go straight away, especially if you try and force it to.

By the way, also try smiling a lot. It is scientifically proven that if you back smiling up with lots of positive thoughts that it does in fact make you feel better. Another scientifically proven way is to exercise. Seven minutes should be enough. Here will help, I hope. This is all I can think of for now, I hope it helps. If it doesn't, please come back and I will be sure to recommend you some more things! You're really amazing, have a nice day and be sure to smile!

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The past couple weeks have been pretty stressful for me. I don't want to go into too much detail but they involved me and a friend getting pretty damn scary threats from an anon who we know is someone in our group of friends. I already have serious trust issues and this really isn't helping, I'm scared and I don't know who to trust or what to do. I haven't been talking in that group for a bit, but I do miss them. I'm just scared, I've been betrayed too many times I don't want to get hurt.

A-Anon-san, I'm really sorry you had to go through that... No one deserves to be hurt.

I think that you could maybe go away from your friends a little while.. I know it may not be the best option and that some people may be innocent b-but, you're going to stress yourself over it even more if you keep thinking about it. I think you were doing the right thing in not talking but I think that its best for you right now, until it stops..

You could try to hang out with some other friends to get your mind off of things, or do things that could relax you... If the anon is on Tumblr, you can ask all of them to turn off anon or even their ask. P-please just remember that it is better to surround yourself with positivity rather than negativity so you could still talk to some of your friends in private chats but only about certain things, not about the issue..

Also please try to remember that you should not take anon threats too seriously. It is really scary to get a threat but I think the person behind that anon is too scared to tell you it off of anon, I think they're most likely lying.

B-but whatever you want to do, that's fine too! I'll support your decisions... if you want to keep talking in that group, you can do that too. If the threats are that serious, you can try contacting Tumblr support, they might get you the identity of the anon.. No one deserves to be sent threats. If it isn't on Tumblr, you can try contacting the people who run the website.. I hope this helps.. Please come back if it didn't, I'll try to give you more advice!

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Before spring break, I took this test that I know that I did horribly on, but I haven't had to face the repercussions yet because of the break, but today is my last day of my break, and I'm terrified about going back to school and having to face the bad grade and explain it to my mom and teacher. Can Sonia give me some advice on how to handle this situation?

Hello, Anon-san, I will try to help.

Sometimes, we can get bad grades and people do not take it too lightly such as teachers or parents. All I can say to you really is that you tried your best and had a go. I know you may have not gotten an ideal grade, but it is okay. There is always the next test you can revise for and do your best. 

You can tell your parents that it is only one test and you will do better on the next one. I know it may be hard having to face a grade -- it is something we may all get occasionally, just do not worry too much. You can do better next time, I know you will. Explain that to your parents and teachers.

Just try to calm down. Do not be terrified, Anon. I know you can do better next time. Listen to music or do anything that seems relaxing to you. I am not sure if you could, but perhaps you can ask your teachers if they could possibly modify your grade if you do extra credit. I do not know if your parents tolerate bad grades but it is only one grade. I hope this has helped you.

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ANy tips on how to deal with homophobia? I have some friends who are homophobic and it makes me sick to my stomach. It makes me more hesitant to come out.

Anon-san, homophobes are not good at all. What I suggest you do is try to be confident and voice your opinion. If they are really your friends, they should respect your opinion and if they do, then you should not be scared to come out any more. 

I am aware it may be hard, but you can walk on past it because I know you are strong! 

There is not much you can do but to tell them your opinion. It is up to them if they want to change their point of view on homosexuality. I cannot really think of anything else you can do. I do not know what your friends say either, but there is a fine line between an opinion and hatred. 

Just remember though that there are millions of other people, both online and in real life that are willing to accept your sexuality. I will always be here if you run into any more trouble, Anon-san. I hope this was helpful.

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what can i do to be happy when i am sad?

Hey there, Anon.. if you want to be happy I can definitely help you.

I'll make a list of things you can do to be happy:

Talk to friends about positive things, smile and laugh with them! Friends will definitely help you get better.

Watching some cute cat videos helps.

Have a fun stickman adventure.

You can read some inspirational stories that will make you smile.

Visit this cool website where you can create your own weave silk thing.

You can also do some hobbies like learning coding or playing games - anything to distract yourself from what's making you upset.

You can also listen to some cool music like this or this.

Listen to the rain.

Draw something that helps you get your sadness out.

Eat! Eating things you like can help you feel a little better.

Well these were just a few basic things you could do to help you stop feeling sad. I hope these were helpful! Feel free to come back if you need anything else. Bye, bye!

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(part one) So lately I've been thinking of writing an ongoing letter to my friend. To tell her everything that's been going on with me and how it hurt when she didn't care/believe me when she was the only person I told about cutting, etc etc

 I want to write it over the remaining years of school, give it to her after graduation, then essentially never speak to her again.I don't plan on talking to my hs friends and I thought that would serve as an explanation. Does that sound ok tho..

Well your friend sure has some nerve not caring about you cutting yourself. That ain't acceptable, not at all! If you're not going to talk to your high school friends again, then they're just gonna have to accept that!

In the letter, be sure to include your progress on recovering from self-harm, and your great achievements! It'll show her that she lost out on having you, a great person, as her friend. It's no good just showing your sadness because that'll just show she won when she didn't believe you - I'm sure you wouldn't lie about self harming. I really like your plan!

Well that's all I really have to say on the topic. If you need anything else, don't be afraid to come back! Enoshima Junko is out, bye bye!