HERE AND THERE but not a lot… he’s not in his life for very long LOLL but the time he IS there oh my loorrdd.. not good …. Sebastian is one of many men who will be burning in hell after they die
He and Louise were high school sweethearts who thought that was the only option… they get married immediately, mostly cause she was already pregnant witn Daryl. Asa came seven years later and was also an accident. He never really put the distance of their age gap together as this, though …
Anyway, Sebastian doesn’t like his wife, kids, career, or anything about his life. He wanted to be a race car driver when he was a kid but that never happened. He barely graduated high school and supported his young family by working at a paper mill in portland, OR. it was a terrible job and it smelled horrible. He moved the family up to Pasco, WA a few years after Asa was born because living in a big city was getting expensive. He gets an equally glamorous factory line worker job up there and hates it just as much.
Sebastian takes all his frustrations out on his family. He’s the type of guy to not show up home til after 8 pm and start yelling when theres nothing left for dinner. He has drinking issues and anger issues and no boundaries with anyone and a bit of a violent streak too. He likes to tell his kids that their mom is the reason he’s like this, and that he used to be a good man before her. Daryl spends too much of his time protecting Asa from their dad and defending their mom against him, physically and in what he says. Besides being physically and emotionally abusive, he’s also a scumbag and terrible parent. He’d leave guns around the house, hit animals in his car on purpose, show his kids porn, things like that… not the type of guy you wanna be alone with
When Daryl was 17 and Asa was 10, Sebastian left them and their mother for good. He left no note, didn’t say a word or hint at anything, he just didn’t come back from work one night. They all worried for a few months, called the cops about it, but after it went nowhere they just assumed he was dead in a ditch somewhere. Daryl was old enough to work and support their family, same with Louise, so they made do without him
If there is anyone specific you want to hear about just lemme know I would LOVE to elaborate on literally anything Anyway heres some things ive been pondering lately. Lemme talk about Asa’s relationships with the Moore/Rogers siblings i neglect them!!!
Also LOOONG sorry
A relationship i dont talk about a lot, even though its pretty important is Asa and Daryl’s. Daryl’s seven years older than Asa and for some time was a bit of a father figure to him. If you remember, their dad up and left them one day when they were young, and they just never saw him again. Jeez!!! Well, Daryl is really the one who stepped up for their family, especially with how distraught and dysfunctional their mother was at the time. All things considered though, Louise was doing plenty herself, lets not discredit her! Anyway, Asa sees Daryl as some sort of perfect hero, which is really pushed by the fact that Daryl was a teenager and he wasn’t quite yet. To a kid, a super cool teenage older brother was as close to superman as it got. Even before their dad left, Daryl was the one distracting little Asa from all the troubles their family had. Taking him to the basement and playing records way loud when their parents fought, showing him card tricks and taking him on long walks while things settled down, or just holding him while he cried and telling him that it was okay to be sad, he was too. When Sebastian would tell them terrible lies about their mother, Daryl wouldn’t dare argue back but he would at least tell Asa in private that he was only saying those things to make her look bad, and he was trying to make them feel the same way to turn against her.
As Asa grew older, he realized the extent to which Daryl had protected him and his mother, and began to feel guilty about his own role in things. It wasn't that Asa had done anything “wrong,” but he didn't know if he could ever compare in his family. Daryl was always just better - always helpful, never ungrateful, never quick to anger or one to cry over nothing … and when he moved away from home, 12-year-old Asa wasn't sure how he was going to compete. Luckily, he didn’t need to be “man of the house” for long, Louise had just started to get to know a handsome car salesman named Gerry Rogers and they had been getting along quiiite well.
As adults, Asa and Daryl get along well enough, but there isn’t the same emotional connection they had as kids. They both suppose there just wasn’t the need; their family was much better off now, no one screamed at each other or threatened to kill anyone, it was just everyday mundanity and the occasional holiday visit now. They talk much less frequently, especially with how busy Daryl is as a lawyer and family man, and their conversations are less emotional bonding and more Asa asking Daryl for favors. On the rare occasion they see each other in person, Asa gets the feeling that his older brother is disappointed in him. Maybe it’s the way he asks about his career, or about how he’s never had a girlfriend, or comments on how long his hair has gotten, but Asa feels childish and ashamed at moments while around Daryl. While watching Asa tackle his young adulthood, Daryl sees him as some sort of barely-living animal hit by a truck and staggering along. He’s torn between just letting his little brother suffer the consequences of his poor decisions and the feeling of obligation he has towards him. Daryl usually ends up giving in because of how bad he feels for him, which is how Asa ends up racking up so much money from him. One day he’ll tell him to knock it off.
Asa and Vicky have a pretty interesting relationship too, I really want to expound on them as a duo more often … anyway, they’re stepsiblings starting in both their early 10s, so they don’t have the typical childhood bonding a usual family would. At first, neither of them are used to having some random kid in their house so they’re a bit apprehensive. As you can imagine, getting used to having a new “replacement” parent around was difficult for both of them as well, so there was a bit of strain in the family. Full of complicated feelings and the usual middle school angst, Asa was a bit of an emotional terrorist to her for the first little while. He’d start fights with her, try and take attention away from her from both their parents, try and get her in trouble for no reason, things of that sort. And he’d play the victim when she’d justly call him out for it, which would just lead to more crying and fighting. This came to an end eventually, but Asa was a bit older than his mother had wished by the time that happened…
They also had some class differences in the beginning, which was obvious in their attitudes towards money and spending. While Asa did quickly get used to all the benefits of a loaded stepdad, and became quite the moocher himself, he was initially very shocked by how Vicky would just get what she wanted when she wanted. She wasn’t ungrateful, but it did just happen and it was like it was normal. Asa grew up in a hand-me-downs and bean soup household, so he nearly lost his mind when he went shopping with her and her dad for the first time and he just let her get a new pair of shoes, no questions asked. He was even more shocked when he was treated the same way. Maybe he could begin to understand where she was coming from.
In their teenage years, Vicky thinks Asa is a total idiot. This is not a false assessment, as he is really just a very stupid person. Even worse, he tries too hard to be cool. Sunglasses indoors, leather jackets and pretending to like metal and smoking cigs … Vicky finds all of this to be deeply embarrassing and untrue to Asa’s actual self, but she can’t tell him that without accusations of jealousy. She just rolls her eyes, because she actually is quite popular and doesn’t need to force herself into too-tight jeans and “real college parties, yeah Vick, I’m serious,” to prove that. She does find all of this a bit concerning however, because it makes Asa’s horrible insecurity obvious to anyone with eyes, and his teenage self would do any stupid and dangerous thing if it meant fitting in. It was a relief to her when he finally stopped wearing sunglasses while driving at night, that was just unforgivable.
Their dynamic changes a bit after Vicky introduces him to Wilson, because she had been good friends with Wilson for a few years now and could tell things were going to change. Seeing what it did between the three of them, she regrets introducing them at all. At first, it was a good thing; Asa had been hanging around with her more (albeit as a means to get closer to this mysterious friend of hers), he was more open with his emotions with her, and she felt like this infatuation he had with Wilson was what it took to get him to actually connect to her. They were really talking, and she was hoping that Wilson’s goody two shoes influence would rub off on Asa, rather than his fabricated tough guy act. She was disappointed to see opposite results, and saddened to see her brother take her best friend off the deep end.
In this friendship they all shared, it became a terrible strain on Vicky when Asa and Wilson had their own separate relationship issues. Not only was it difficult to watch her friend and brother both suffer at each other's hands, but they both would come to her for advice or to vent or to call the other one a worthless idiot, and this got very old very quickly. She felt that neither of them considered the position this put her in, and that as a result, she knew way more about the both of them than she had ever wished. She began to resent Wilson for treating Asa the way he did, and she thought Asa was foolish for tolerating it at all, and was met with scoffs when she voiced either of these opinions to them. It never got to the point of no longer speaking, but it was exhausting to her already exhausting life, and she felt frustrated with how it never seemed to be about her own problems when they talked. However, when times were good, she loved both of their presences - together and separate - and had wished they worked out in the long run.
After she moved to Seattle in 1990, she saw Asa less and less. It wasn’t a far drive from where he lived, just a few hours, but both were in their 30s and working adults so the drift was natural. Still, Asa liked to stay in touch. He felt that he owed her something, for being such a rock in his life and helping him when he didn’t feel it was deserved. When he had the time, he’d go out of his way to make a trip to see her and her girlfriend for a weekend and just drink and talk.
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