Anon Advice Asks - January 23rd
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galaxy anon
CAS CAS CAS
It's galaxy anon!
He asked me out!!! Basically, we went out to grab some food, wandered around town for a bit (and he bought me a book!!), and then he had to leave to catch his train home, but we kissed before he went 🥰
We see each other in school a lot but we're keeping it on the down low for a bit just to avoid any drama, especially because the last person he dated was awful. We're thinking of planning another date, but we're not sure what we're doing yet. Do you think I could tell my parents when I ask to go out with him? By saying something like, "Hey, so can I go to _____ over the weekend? ____ asked me on a date."
I feel like I need to refine the wording and stuff, but if that's the general message, what would your advice be about telling them?
Thank you and I hope you have an amazing day!!
Ahhh congratulations! That's so exciting, and I'm so happy for you!! I think I would just add, when talking to your parents, some things about him that make him a good/safe person to hang out with (if they've never met him). Like "he's in my math class and always helps me when idk an answer" or "last time we hung out, he was so respectful and gave me some of his food when I was hungry." it seems silly, but little things like that reassure parents that you're with a safe person who won't hurt you.
Good luck, my friend! <3 lmk what happens if you think of it!
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dating anon
dating anon here!
I was wondering what your opinions on ChatGPT specifically on helping with things like double checking your work or making sure you’re checking off all the boxes on the rubric and other academic help (spell check, grammar, brainstorming, etc.) that does not include cheating.
I feel like ppl think it’s very black and white (either think ChatGPT is horrible and useless or that’s it’s super great and helpful) and I’m not sure where to fall but it’s not as black and white to me
That being said, I do absolutely hate ChatGPT in CREATIVE spaces, because, well, stealing real people’s works and all that. This particular ask is not about that, though.
Hi!
Honestly, this is such a hard question to answer. I think if someone I knew used AI in this way, I definitely wouldn't judge them. I think that the truth is AI isn't going anywhere, and it has the potential to be helpful in the ways you described. But I think for me, personally, I have a hard time with the idea of it as a whole because of the fact that it negatively affects so much. Like, the few times I have used it (not for writing, promise) I have felt icky after. Also...it's not completely accurate, so if I were using it on schoolwork, there's a risk of it being wrong and backfiring. So for now, I still choose to stay away from it, because it's just not worth it. There are other ways to do all of those things. I really hope humanity is able to fine-tune and develop it into a tool that isn't nearly as harmful, but it does make me nervous lol.
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no worries anon
guess who’s back. Back again
yeah uh, it’s no worries anon. Good news splashed in with some badish things
cas, it is so weird to have a fanfic that I am genuinely excited about finishing. Like I am working on this one right now, and I’m so excited to keep writing. Maybe it’s because I have the support I need. Like actually having friends who are supporting me as I write
or maybe not. Because I had friends supporting me before. I just think that I got so caught up in being perfect because of the bad people who were also surrounding me. Like those few harmful people that I was able to cut out suddenly freed me
maybe it’s the fact that I myself am still figuring out the story with a friend. That’s the beauty of an adaptation from a roleplay. You get to have some of those small bits already figured out. I have the plot ideas, I know what to do
but I think it’s also reaaaally the change of fandom. From one super demanding to one that doesn’t call for that shit. This one I am actively writing for a more rare ship. Which is wild, but there is not expectation of it being good. And people actually fucking like reading it. I got comments and they made my day. Because other people like my niche little ship. And they are okay waiting for a longer fic to come out. And while sure, my chapters are like 1k words each, people still like it
idunno I think I’m just glad that I’m out of that negative headspace. My mental health is finally better and I think it shows throughout my writing. Like sure, the fic is angsty. But also my writing is good and something I’m proud of, which is something I couldn’t say about old fics of mine. Because my mental health was shit
and while my mental health isn’t perfect now, it’s definitely better. Cutting out toxic people made me realise my worth. Eh maybe not exactly, but it’s close. It made me realise that people you thought you could trust can fucking suck. Doddamn it if I could go back and never have met those people, I would have loved that. But I can’t
so we live and learn, right?
anyways, thank you for helping people out. You do so much for the random internet people, and it’s just amazing
you are the best of many internet folk
Hi! I'm so glad you're feeling good about your writing and you're in a good headspace. That makes such a difference!
I've been reflecting on similar things lately, tbh. Each fandom is so unique, and sometimes the culture of one can become overwhelming. I'm glad you found a place where you feel happy!
Sending you so much love!
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galentines anon
Hi hon <3
I am so sorry that both you and your friend are going through this. It's so stifling to have to live up to parent expectations, and the way her mom is acting is so upsetting.
I don't think you should feel guilty, though. There's room in the world for both of your emotions, and it's not like you're ignoring her because you are sad. You're being a great friend by being there, you know? I'm so glad she has someone to remind her that she's loved.
