#dating stuff

[cowboah-baby]

okay so 2026 dating didn't start out any better. sigh.

i've now been single for 2,5 years since my divorce, transed my gender after that and i have to say the loneliness is making me have some weird, desperate thoughts.

back when i was a woman i would've never wanted to be a trophy wife and detested the thought and existance of the mere concept, but now that i'm a guy and getting desperate i totally understand the fantasy of someone coming to your life, love bombing you like crazy and then financially taking care of you.

i know it doesn't work like that but i'm going insane having to date 30yos who are 'not looking for anything serious' or are 'already main partnered and looking for a side'. these are both alright things to want but it seems impossible no else is looking for the same thing as me? love? companionship? shared life?

i've given up on entertaining fantasies of romance (oh to be someone's favorite person again) and that's leading my head to weird places.

[celticcat17]

How I feel…thinking of her…and missing her…ever single day….even all these months latter…

[jukeboxhound]

I may have to keep a running thread of Things I'm Learning In My First Polyamorous Relationship. It sounds like the setup to a comedy thread but I'm being serious. Fic did not prepare me for some of these nuances and lowkey I need some reference notes for future polycule shipfic.

Most obviously: there is so much processing. I have not talked about my emotions so much since I was in therapy and being extremely autistic about it. There is processing of things I didn't know needed to be processed. I mean I understand that it's necessary but also it's a good thing that we are not born with a finite number of words that can be used in a single lifetime.

[blessthishouse]

Something I truly hate about modern dating (or maybe just my luck with dating in general) is that it seems like almost every guy has unhealed trauma with an ex 😐 which is fine, I get everyone heals at their own pace, but why try to get to know someone then?

[irenetherogue]

Him: I want to hear your story

Me: how much time u got

Him: AlL nIgHt

Me: no I mean do you have any weekly appointment spots open rn also do you take my insurance

[witch-is-writing]

Idk how to date people in my age range🥲 like... what? How do I keep a conversation with them? Without being bored? Or is it a me-issue maybe?😅 wrongly conditioned? Since I am not at all used to even slightly similar age groups?

In all honesty, I'd be good going without a partner. Its bothersome to me, I dont feel like I need or really want it. My goals lie elsewhere... but friends and family kinda force it🥲😂 what do i do

[kitchenslattern]

The Bad News: I had to last-minute reschedule my date for pizza and gay movies tonight for later in the week, because I woke up too fatigued for life, and with an unstable stomach, because adjusting to new medication is a slight roller-coaster.

The Good News: My date is the absolute loveliest person, completely understood that my body is kind of unpredictable right now, and reassured me that she didn't think anything of it. Also, the rescheduling may allow me enough time to bake her some kind of spell recipe for the new date, depending on how I'm feeling. Possibly more self-love cookies. I don't see why I shouldn't feed all of my lady-dates self-love cookies.

The Great News: Instead of cleaning the guest bathroom this morning, I went back to bed with my cat! I'll have to really brush her out later, though; she's so rumpled from rolling around in bed and cuddling all night and morning.