#datingin2017

[black-in-suburbia]

Fuk boy:Wyd?

Me: I'm working its 2pm on a Monday

Fuk boy: oh

Me: are you stupid? You know i work 8-5 monday-friday...

Fuk boy:my bad.....

1 hour later

Fuk boy: wyd

Me: just lose my number

[30somethingsurviving]

Yes. This. It’s hard at this point to even think about the possibility of anything working, because it not working has been reinforced over and over and over. But I am so tired of living in fear. And since I started dating, I have gone with the mentality that happiness is on the other side of fear. So with that I choose to put those “what ifs” to rest. The only “what if” I’m focusing on from here on out is “what if this is amazing exactly what I need?”

[datingin2017-blog]

Ok but how much money did he inadvertently pay to have that conversation

[datingin2017-blog]

Reported af

[edwards5456]

whispers of love, stolen glances, hearts fluttering, all within the dance of modern dating.

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[susieqduh]

D A T I N G. . .

It’s just what the title says its dating!  My thoughts on dating may be a little different than other people but hey they are MY THOUGHTS. Dating in 2017 is crazy. People think because you are dating that means you all go together. Lol well maybe for some, but for me dating is getting to know multiple people.  The reason you date is to see what you like about a person and go on an adventure. Just because you go out on a date with a person doesn't mean that you are stuck with he/she for life. That's what I call marriage, but that’s a different topic for another day.  Dating for me is a learning experience. I say that because you are out getting to know a person as well as yourself.  Things that you didn’t know about yourself show up in the middle of that date.  For example. one night I went on a date and I discovered that I like Shushi. I swear once you get pass the thought of eating raw fish and things you really start to enjoy it. Always go on date open mined!!!  I say this to you because if you go into a dated closed minded you will cheat yourself from a good time and a possible learning experience. Not to mention you might be a step closer to your king/queen.  Promise me right now after reading this you will go in with an open mind. With that being said go out into the world take chances and make a few mistakes I mean those are some of the best lessons. Happy dating Tumblr 

[30somethingsurviving]

Baggage claim

Dating is made even more complex at this age, because by now we’ve all accumulated baggage. Take me for example. I married my best friend and gave 100% of myself to him. He violated my personal and emotional safety, and once we were divorced he replaced me within a few short weeks. I meant nothing to him. The next guy I dated cheated on me. I meant nothing to him. And most every guy I have talked to or been out with since has reiterated to me that my worth is extremely limited, and that I mean nothing to them. Every time something like this occurs, I put another brick on the walls I’m building around myself. And brick by brick I’m working on building a fortress that will be very difficult for any man to break through. I bring the baggage of mistrust, broken hopes, and crushed self esteem.

I think these are things we need to be more aware of in ourselves. And once we’ve claimed our own baggage, we need to recognize that any potential suitor will also have their own baggage. And figuring out what’s worth the effort and what is worth the time may be the biggest barrier to our happiness. I’ve become aware of the fact that no one has found me worth the effort or worth the time. But I cannot change who I am to better my odds. I have become this person through every painful step of this journey.

[30somethingsurviving]

I don't need much

I haven’t blogged in a while… Luckily no one’s given me a reason to! But I was just thinking, what happens if I do meet the right person? Is there some way I will know? I mean obviously if he doesn’t speak German throughout our date, doesn’t take me to the Danbarry, and looks like his pictures, that’s a good start. But I need more than that. I need someone who can fulfill it only a couple of things that are missing from my life. Affection, attention, and companionship, not necessarily in that order. I got the rest covered…I think!

Honestly I don’t think that’s too much to ask for, however it’s been apparently too much for men in the past. So I’ve been quick to question if I should change or lower my standards. But I decided that what I want is not unrealistic. It’s not too much to ask. It should come standard in all relationships. So while I have decided to take a break from dating sites, I continue to hold these values and expectations.