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Dear aphobes: I’m not “waiting” or “wanting to be special.” I’m physically incapable of feeling attraction until the right circumstances arise. And I’m in a loving relationship, so don’t give me the “you’re just too lazy to find someone.”
Dear Aphobes, i just want to rant because you don't understand how hard it is so feel like you have no acceptance anywhere, within the LGBTQ+ community and outside of it, it sucks being the "others", it sucks to be barely accepted, you know like a "yeah whatever i guess you can be LGBTQ+ too", to feel like your struggle isn't enough (although we are struggling on both sides), to feel like you are not queer enough to be vocal about it, it hurts okay and it's not fair. So fuck you.
Dear aphobes, if you react to someone saying "hey imagine if someone said this phobic thing with gay people as the target" with "oh but gays are Really Oppressed," then you're a piece of shit. The point wasn't to prove how we're "oppressed enough" to be in the community, the point was that your words and actions are actually rancid, and that you're needlessly harassing us. Even if we weren't oppressed, you're still being assholes.
Dear aphobes: Stop declaring asexuality and aromanticism off-limits to disabled people and self-righteously lecturing us about how we're "desexualizing" ourselves and it's just "internalized ableism." You're the ones desexualizing me and being ableist by trying to strip me of my agency and telling me I'm only allowed to identify as whatever orientation you personally want me to be. And an extra fuck you if you pull this shit despite being disabled yourself. You should fucking know better.
Dear aphobes, please stop encouraging people who change their mind about being asexual to then become aphobes. Some former ace-identifying people act like asexuals are predatory and are suckering people into identifying as ace. It’s not that way with any other sexual orientation. People are encouraged to change labels when they don’t feel that one fits them, so asexuality should get the same respect.
Dear aphobes, I’m asexual now and have always been. Just because I didn’t realize it and didn’t come out until I was an adult, doesn’t mean I wasn’t always ace. There’s a difference between not being something and not having enough information to call yourself something. You would never to say to a gay person “you weren’t gay before, why did you decide to call yourself gay?”
Dear arophobes,
being aromantic doesn’t mean that i “don’t feel anything”.
