#dear scarlet

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But sometimes you have to take care of yourself before you can do anything else.

Teresa Wong, Dear Scarlet, 2019

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"Thank you for reminding me the relevance of little things. Because, in the end, they outweigh the big things tenfold. We’re all just a bunch of little things. Little cells. Small ideas that bloom into behavior. Little ambitions that eventually start making choices for us. Small details like the way the socks slip across hardwood floors or cold river water feels splashing against your ankles eventually end up making your entire memory. Maybe there’s no such thing as a little thing anyway."

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For real, whenever I feel a bit shitty about the future I read Dear Scarlet and I remember that one day I will have my own daughter who will be the centre of my world and it's impossible to feel sad when you know people can love that much.

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Mummy child. I love this photo so much. It’s imperfect and perfect at the same time.

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Dear Scarlet Week of October 15th

Dear Scarlet, I am completely swamped with everything going on and with midterms around the corner, I think I am going to explode. I know how to de-stress, but how do I manage everything? I need help, please! Sincerely, Overrun Ollie

Dear Ollie. Stress is a normal part of adulthood. Now is the time to perfect time management skills and learning not to procrastinate. When things begin to feel too hectic it’s good to take the time out to do something nice for yourself. Take a walk, or a nice hot bath and that may just do the trick. XOXO Scarlet

Dear Scarlet, I love my girlfriend, but sometimes when I am playing video games she gets all weird about it. She says I don’t want to spend time with her because I want to play video games, but it honestly isn’t the case. I love her very much, but it is something I like doing, like watching tv or reading. Whenever I explain this to her it ends up being a fight. What should I say to her to make her understand? Sincerely, Guilty Gamer

Dear Guilty Gamer, Your girlfriend feels like your video games are more important to you then she is. You can say you love her a million times but until you show it, she will never truly believe you. Now it perfectly okay for you to enjoy video games as a hobby but when it consumes you, it can start to affect your relationship. That is where the problem is. You should do something nice for your girlfriend to prove that you care about her and can put your relationship above video games. Once you give her more of your attention to her she will then know that you love her and not bug you about playing your video games.

Xoxo, Scarlet

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Dear Scarlet 10/1/13

Dear Scarlett,

I am having some problems with waking up for my 8am class. I know that it is important to go, but I have no motivation to get out of bed and listen to my teacher drone on about science. Do you have any advice for someone who really hates the morning?

Sleepy Susan

  Hey Susan,

You’re not the only person that has an issue with 8am classes. I personally know that I couldn’t do an 8 am class myself. I think that it is important to know your limitations and to do what’s best for you. If you are not going to learn anything in the class because it’s too early and you can’t concentrate yet, then maybe you should find the same class later on in the day that way you can get the most out of the class. You’re in college now and you have to pay for your education. That alone should be enough of a motivation to go to class and do well, so next semester when your picking classes just don’t register for and 8ams. Good Luck!

XOXO,

Scarlett

    Dear Scarlett,

I moved to campus to get the whole “college experience,” but my mother will not leave me the hell alone. She refuses to let me be, and it’s hard to tell her that because I love her. I’m just stuck in the middle between wanting to get her off my back, and trying to be nice. Help mee.

Anon

  Hey Anon,

One thing that everyone needs to realize is that, moms are ALWAYS going to be annoying. It’s their job, it’s in their DNA. All we can do is figure out the best way to handle it. Your mom is probably a little sad that you moved out of the house and are becoming an adult, so be a little sensitive to her for now. Its okay for you to have a conversation with your mom and let her know your schedule and the things you have going on so that she doesn’t call you all the time or just pop up randomly. Just don’t be mean about it. Remember if something happens or you need something your mom is going to be the one that you call on and she will be there for you. So be nice!

XOXO,

Scarlett

  Dear Scarlett,

I’ve been spending a lot of time with someone lately, and we get along with each other really well, but I don’t  know if I’m ready  for a relationship or not. A couple of months ago I broke up with a long term boyfriend and now I’m just sort of floundering around in the single pool. Should I make a move, I think it is so awkward.

Awkward Allison.

  Hey Allison,

I think it’s great that you aren’t trying to hop into another relationship with someone when you know you’re not ready for it. I think it is important for a girl to take the time out to figure out exactly what it I she wants out of a relationship, the things that she is okay with and the things that are deal breakers. Without this time to figure out what you want you will keep jumping from relationship to relationship and allowing guys to treat you poorly. As far as this new guy I think that you should be content with your friendship the way it is. If he is not pressuring you to make things more official then enjoy it the way it is. If you decide later on that you want to be in a relationship with him then simply have a conversation with him about your relationship status. It doesn’t have to be an awkward situation, just be honest with him because you want him to be honest with you.

  XOXO,

Scarlett

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