#dearcoquette

[pourgrossir]

Does anyone remember coketalk//dear coquette I miss that bitch

[cleavingtolilac]

On Finding an Ideal Partner

Is finding a partner who is fun and easy-going and great in bed who like also has goals and shit in life just like SUPER FUCKING LUCKY?

Finding an ideal partner (or partners) requires a great deal of self-knowledge and a very special set of life skills. You can acquire the necessary knowledge and skills by being well-raised in a healthy family system (that would count as being super fucking lucky), or you can acquire the necessary knowledge and skills after years of trial and error, conscious effort, and personal growth.

Let me be clear: Without the necessary self-knowledge and life skills, you will always be limited in your ability to find the healthiest possible relationships. There is no such thing as winning the life partner lottery. That’s not a thing. You will inevitably wind up in relationships with people at your own level of function (or, more often, dysfunction).

It’s a sad truth that most people limp through their entire lives in functionally indistinguishable relationships built around whatever stale belief systems and immature behavior patterns they established in their teens and early twenties.

If you want to do better, you have to put in serious fucking work.

Dearcoquette

[burningtoemerge]

‘I think I’m in love. Why am I crying all the time?’ Coketalk: Sorry to break it to you but crying is a big part of being in love.

Coketalk

[songsofherlilacvibe]

I pretty much get all my news from Vox and podcasts. I don’t know if this is bad. Add the Washington Post and a well-curated Twitter account into the mix, and you’ll be fine.

[alwaysnewkid]

Due to the fact that everything is meaningless, I have no motivation whatsoever to do anything in particular with my life. I keep myself busy by fulfilling my basic human needs of water, food, sleep, internet and weed. Outside of that, fuck all happens. This has been made worse by learning vipassana…

I wonder if the querent here was someone I knew from high school.

[cleavingtolilac]

When have I crossed the line from being forgiving to being a doormat? At the moment you’ve lost your dignity.

[digdag88]

you have a gaping void where your self-worth is supposed to go, and the only way you’ve been taught to fill it is through external validation and compliance.

http://dearcoquette.com/on-fun-sized-advice-216/

[smaxsaysnyan]

Dear Coquette-

“If most people are destined for mediocrity, what makes a person extraordinary to you?

Mediocrity is meaningless, and knowing a person is all it takes to make them extraordinary to me.

There are 7,000,000,000 human beings alive on this planet right now. Another 100,000,000,000 have already lived their lives and died. Every last one us is a staggering 1 in 107,000,000,000, which makes every single person I get the opportunity to know absolutely and utterly extraordinary.” -dearcoquette

http://dearcoquette.com (anyone who doesn't know her site, check it out)