#debates tag

[uncannine]

the whole transandrophobia vs transmysogyny oppression olympics some are having on this site is baffling to me not because of the content but rather the fact they truly believe that they can’t affect a single individual equally????? that they’re “locked” to 1 experience and that’s it?????

a transmasc on HRT who presents femininely or GNC can be mistaken for a transfem early in their transition and be hurt in transmysogynistic ways, despite already experiencing transandrophobia as a transmasc.

a transfem can be mistaken for a transmasc who’s been on HRT for a while who is feminine and be hurt in transandrophobic ways, despite already experiencing transmysogyny as a transfem.

a nonbinary individual of any kind, who is a the mercy of how others choose to discriminate them that day, can and will be hurt by both transandrophobia and transmysogyny. the only thing to tip the scale is how masc or fem others see them as, or if others try to assume their sex, and even then the results will shock you.

and don’t even DON’T EVEN get me started on intersex individuals.

these are all real life examples i’ve seen with my own two eyes. to add further: i am nonbinary, i am transmasculine. i have been discriminated against in real life before, as expected. i can assure you, the bigot spewing insults and hate on the subway on pride day didn’t ask me my gender and sex before calling me a transmysogynistic slur (used against trans women, mind you) to my face.

[uncannine]

there’s this odd, very specific sixth sense you develop by simply existing as a nonbinary individual that i can only explain as noticing others Waiting.

for what? unclear; more often than not it’s waiting for you to “go back” (detransition and/or ditch the label and act like nothing happened) or to “fully transition” (become binary trans, regardless if you even lean into male or female at all to begin with).

sometimes it literally is waiting for you to do a trick, marveling at you like an exotic animal. waiting for you to say - or do, or even think - the specific, albeit random things people assume you would, just because you’re non-binary.

waiting for you to Look Nonbinary, whatever that means. waiting to see you do [insert any cringy thing the internet says all NBs do] with their own eyes.

waiting for you to grow up, to see you “grow out of it”. waiting for the time they’ll be able to poke fun of your “non-binary phase” openly, alongside or at least with the blessing of an alternative-timeline you who “went back to normal”.

[uncannine]

“contradictory label / identity” to you. it’s contradicting to you. it makes perfect sense to me, idk what to tell you

[uncannine]

this shouldn’t be a hot take but transmascs and tmen have the unique experience of being victims of both misogyny and misandry, and i think this should be considered when discussing transandrophobia

[uncannine]

radfems and TERFs will complain time and time and time again about hating being a woman and how uncomfortable they are as women and how they absolutely despise it and have to “come to terms with it” and their “misfortune” and then they’re Shocked trans and/or NB folk understand their feelings.

not all women hate being a woman; for your own health and mental wellbeing please re-evaluate your bitterness PLEASE

[uncannine]

i appreciate the enthusiasm and passion a lot of you fellow trans folk of the global north put into your posts. i however cannot agree when you act like just by existing in the southern hemisphere i will never be able to be myself or that it is truly the most dangerous thing in the word, like i’m actively living in a Saw trap or something

you do know it’s not inherently worse here just because it’s “the south”, right? right?? you have more reasons behind that logic other than “south = worse”, right????? please tell me you do…….

[uncannine]

seeing AI used in art makes me so deeply sad. it makes me nauseous. it makes me upset.

chatgpt has never been overwhelmingly emotional at the sight of a single comic panel. it has never found a never-suggested-before meaning to a song. it has no favourite artist that shaped it when it was learning about art history. it has no childhood warrior cats AMV that inspired it to pursue animation. it has no experiences to grab from. it is a tool. it cannot write your story for you.

it cannot write Your story for You.

[uncannine]

genuine question at this point :

do any of you lot actually do the activism you claim to do? do you actually interact with your own communities as you preach everyone should do so as well?

because if all of that is true, what do you mean you rarely see transmascs and trans men in lgbt+ / queer spaces? why are you acting like we’re rare fish in the pond??