#trans community

[sharemytrans]

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[venice-1987]

Honestly, when it comes the the whole TMA/TME thing, the more I think about it, TMA as a term can be pretty useful as a shorthand to describe a person who has been transfeminized, and marginalized as a result. My real problem with this binary is the term TME for a few reasons

No one is exempt from any sort of societal prejudice. When people try to argue for the use of this term, they more often than not explain that it is for people not explicitly TARGETED by transmisogyny (meaning people who are mistaken for transfeminine people). To widely use a term that implies exemption from a spcietal phenomenon is to, frankly, be antithetical to transfeminist discussion because it simply removes all nuance regarding the way prejudice is pervasive. To remove that pervasiveness from the discussion is to have an incomplete discussion that is not as productive as it needs to be.

It shuts out anyone who isn't a transfeminine person (or more exclusively, a trans woman) from transfeminism. It defines us, not by what our experience IS. But what our experience ISN'T. By trying to first and foremost group us by things we dont experience, our actual experiences with privilege and oppression are demoted to secondary importance. It creates hierarchy of what experience is given weight in discussions, and what experiences are more easily erased. As a result, Ive seen well meaning transfeminists speak up about how transfeminine people are affected by a specific issue, failing to realize that a very close counterpart to that issue exists for transmasculine people, non binary people, intersex people, etc.. By classify us as exempt from that experience, and thus exempt from that issue, our voices are disregarded as less important, and ultimately erased from discussion altogether. As a result, we are not given the support we need, while simultaneously expected to wield privilege we simply do not have to both protect our siblings and ourselves (which is not a bad thing to do, but exhausting to do alone without the support that might be granted if given the chance to articulate ourselves). Now this point might not be so bad (if still questionable)...if transmasculine people were not ONLY called TMEs in transfeminist discussion.

Who exactly is TME (and by extension, TMA, tbh) is poorly defined, does exist in a rigid binary, and is entirrly dependent on the person using the term. There is no easy defined lines separating the two, espesially when considering intersex and nonbinary people. (Where is the line drawn. If you would consider a closeted trans woman TMA, would you also consider a GNC cis man with the same manurisms to be TMA? What about cis gay men historically feminized in order to brutalize them? And then how useful is a term that values cis men as more uniquely oppressed on the basis of gender as to require an unique term, than other trans people?) As a result, it sort of just is reduced into meaning "transfems and not" or "AMAB and AFAB" (which are also reductive and exclusionary, but thats a different discussion). At that point, not only do the terms lose all meaning or usefullness as descriptive terms. But as per point 2, it only serves to define who's voices are valued, and who's are not.

I think TMA has its place, but transfeminism is needed for all trans, GNC, and intersex people, affected by all different sorts of transphobia and intersexism. Transandrophobia affected people, exorsexism affected people. Intersexism affected people. Lets start talking about us like we have any stake in the discussion at all.

[sharemytrans]

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[venice-1987]

The thing is, I love hearing what transfeminine people have to say. I've had more discussions irl with trans feminine people I know about the complexity if transfeminism as it relates to all of us, than with transmascs in my life. And there is so much to learn not only about others in talking to others, but also about yourself. Learning about the social systems as they affect your fellow trans person gives you perspectives you might not have considered that help explain an experience that you have gone through. Thats why its so disheartening to see people think discussions of transmisogyny and transandrophobia are contradictory to one another. Or worse, in competition with one another. That truth of one cancels out the other, instead of them both being reflective of reality.

If anything, having that diversity of thought can help you rationalize your own life, find better language and explanation for your own experiences, and help your fellow human along the way