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[mevalle13-blog]

The end of Predeployment

Deployment is upon us with less than a week to countdown. The days have been passing by so fast. I hope his time away feels the same. We decided to get married before he left for multiple reasons, but mostly because we had been seriously talking about getting married right before we found out about his deployment in September. I know this week will be trying. I'm hoping to pick myself back up fairly fast. What did you do in the first few weeks of the deployment?

[mevalle13-blog]

Fading thoughts

Today wasn’t a great day. I had to fight away tears at work. All I could think about was how distant Sean is becoming. It’s like he’s just throwing in the towel until he leaves. I don’t know what to do to make things better. He’s struggling to enjoy the holiday season. To make matters worse, he had training moved up to take up the first half of December. It took me breaking down in the car for him to take the time to help me set up the Christmas tree. It doesn’t feel fair that I have to spend the next Christmas alone. Then he wants to just be here but not really here for this Christmas? I don’t know how to make him present in the moment. Or how to keep him from thinking life has stopped. This isn’t his first deployment, but it seems to be hitting pretty hard.

I do know one thing.. I’d rather be miserable for the next year and a half during this pre-deployment and deployment than to be without him.

I wish he’d just leave already. He wishes he could just get it over with. How do we deal?