So galaxy and I were talking today and we discovered something:
Okay, so like, this conversation actually came about because we were talking about switch's parents and like. Tsumugi's mom (rightfully) gets a lot of flack for poor parenting but like, what about Natsume's mom. Natsume has gone on the record several times and openly stated how much he loves his mom but like, we feel like there's a lot of reasons to think that things are not as rosy as Natsume lets on.
Sometimes, you want your parents to be good so bad that you ignore the bad parts.
It's normal for traumatized people and children who have parent issues or have one good parent and one bad parent to pedestalize one parent over the other or ignore any of the flaws their parents have in an attempt to see them for who they want to see them as. If Natsume wants his mom to be someone amazing and wonderful that he looks up to, that's who he's going to construct his mom to be. "But maybe his mom is those things" you may ask. She very well may be! But when you look at Natsume's behavior, it's hard not to wonder where some of his tendencies come from. When you start to look at how his mom behaves and has treated him over the course of the series, I feel like more comes into view.
Natsume's parents held very high standards for him, as they do for themselves. Natsume's father has been described as a straight-shooting businessman. Anyone who's climbed in business knows the kind of ruthlessness and calculation it can sometimes take o be successful. Natsume's mom has been known to even sequester herself away for days at a time to focus on her own stuff. Don't those traits sound familar?
You gotta remember too that during Pleiades Night, Natsume didn't even get to go home because his mom was caught up in her own stuff. Natsume handwaves it away, but how are we supposed to believe that Natsume, one of the most codependent and needy people in all of enstars, would just be okay with something like this happening? His reaction here seems to imply to me that this isn't the first time something like this has happened. After all, why would it be?
Natsume's mom has pushed a lot onto her kid, testing Natsume on occasion and making him cross dress for a not insignificant amount of past.
And a certain point, it's hard to not look at all of this and just be like...what kind of parent does this? And again, this is not to say that Natsume has bad parents. But, in my mind, it feels like Natsume's parents were neglectful enough or withheld love enough for Natsume to want to strongly seek it out, even as an adult. We feel like Natsume must have had a lot of moments as a child when he was lonely or sad.
Maybe there were times where all he could do to really attract his parent's full attention is by doing the things that followed in their footsteps.
Maybe he felt like he had to meet their demands to obtain their love.
Maybe he treats Tsumugi and Sora the way he wishes he could treat his parents: genuinely and lovingly with his full range of emotions.
And today, maybe we have a Natsume Sakasaki that struggles with that legacy a bit.
He's a massive perfectionist with a God complex that struggles to let anyone see him falter. He is obsessed on two occasions with "reclaiming" his legacy controlling the way the public sees him, even if he says it's about the Five Eccentrics. He even built a VR headset and locked two of his closest friends in it for two whole weeks.
He feels like it's perfectly fine to self-isolate for days at a time and fail to take care of himself, even though he clearly gets easily upset when Tsumugi does the same.
He's not above "testing" his friends to help them, even if it involves lying and manipulation.
Looking at everything, it's hard to not feel like Natsume gets so much from his parents.
Bringing this back to Natsume and Tsumugi - it really feels like these two are hopelessly trying to fill the mom-shaped hole in each other.
Let's remember that in a lot of ways, Tsumugi is similar to Natsume. Like, his
particularity with money,
his self-destructive work ethic, and
his ruthlessness when it comes to doing things that result in receiving validation from others, especially from Natsume,
All feel like a trauma response from dealing with an absent mother. Like, remember Shinsekai or Element/Magicians Assemble? Tsumugi did so much of what he did because he thinks it will earn him the love or approval of others. In summary:
These two have serious mommy issues. But, it's likely that those mommy issues helped bring them together in a toxic, codependent way. We love them for that lol. But also like, idk, it makes their dynamic so interesting and full of potential.









