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Well, Isn't That Funny

Well, isn't that funny My head is downstream and my body up. Well, isn't that funny... My left arm is on the right bank, and my right arm is on the left. How in the world does this happen all the time? How can a man be in multiple places at once? Torn between existence and good riddance. Torn between the story and reality. Well, isn't that funny I decided to get a haircut cut, and they cut off…

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Perpendicular Realities (continued)

We all make tough decisions sometimes. We have to decide whether or not to tell a bestfriend what we know about their significant other that they don’t know; we have to decide whether or not to tell our boss that our friend isn’t great at their job (or that they don’t do their job at all sometimes); we all have to decide whether or not to tell someone that they have spinach in their teeth sometimes...

And each time that we find we have information that someone else with whom we are interacting does not have, we must make a decision about whether or not to bring other people into our reality - we must decide whether to take our realities from parallel to perpendicular. When this happens, we take many different factors into account. We think, “how will this information make the other person feel?” “Will knowing this make this other person feel better?” “Will knowing this make this other person feel bad, or embarrassed, or any other negative emotion?” “Will knowing this make this other person displace their negative emotions on me; will they feel a need to ‘shoot the messenger;’ will they misinterpret my intentions in sharing this information in a way that will have an indefinite negative impact on our relationship?” “Will knowing this make this other person feel bad in the moment, but eventually lead to a greater happiness than not knowing would?” “Does the other person need this information?” “Does the other person want this information?” And so our thoughts race as we make these complex decisions - and sometimes these decisions take place within seconds, or minutes... and sometimes these decisions take place within hours, or days... or longer.

This is something that we should take into account when we are having conversations with other people... especially other people with whom we disagree on some very important topics. They are inhabiting a reality parallel to ours, and if we can’t find a way to intersect, we will not be perpendicular, we will stay parallel forever.