Here’s some positivity for systems whose headmates have vastly differing opinions!
It is a common occurrence for many systems for members to sometimes fight, clash, or disagree. Thought it may make system life challenging sometimes, there is nothing wrong with having views and ideas that vary across your collective. If your system has members with vastly differing opinions, this post is for you!
💫 Shoutout to systems who have always struggled with chronic indecision!
🫂 Shoutout to systems who struggle to accomplish or try new things due to headmates having difficulties coming to a consensus!
💕 Shoutout to headmates who have become passive or aren’t able to voice their own opinions due to fear of being overruled by the rest of their system!
💫 Shoutout to systems who want to develop a collective identity, but can’t due to strong individual differences between headmates!
🫂 Shoutout to systems whose differing opinions make it difficult for them to practice new skills or hobbies!
💕 Shoutout to systems who have a sense of dread about their future due to the stark differences between headmates!
💫 Shoutout to systems whose headmates have differing political views or moral values which make their lives complicated!
🫂 Shoutout to systems who are learning to facilitate in-system discussions to better work through their differences!
💕 Shoutout to systems who try to respect and embrace each other’s differing views, opinions, and ideas!
💫 Shoutout to systems whose differing opinions among headmates causes their whole collective a great deal of confusion, distress, or impairment!
🫂 Shoutout to systems whose chronic indecision causes them to need accommodations like more time to deliberate, extra or combined options, or a caregiver who can help them make choices!
💕 Shoutout to headmates who are learning how to compromise when different system members want different things!
Folks, please know that indecision and vastly differing views, ideas, and opinions often comes with the territory of plurality. You’re not wrong or bad for having opinions that differ from the majority of your system. You’re not rude, broken, or inconsiderate if arguments and difficulties deciding often cause dysfunction in your collective. You matter, your system matters, and your voices and opinions deserve to be heard and expressed just the way they are!
Our hearts go out to you as a fellow system whose indecision and differing opinions can be overwhelming and debilitating. We hope that learning to work together and take each others’ ideas into account will become easier for your system with time and practice. Please do your best to treat yourself and your system with compassion, and don’t be too hard on yourselves if your differing views causes complications to arise in your lives. We hope you all will be able to breathe, take your time, and ultimately reach conclusions that work well for everyone. Know that we care about y’all and we’re wishing y’all the very best in all that you do!
