Being a romantic Ace of any type...
Seems to make it hard to fine someone to love.
This is going to be me bearing some personal thoughts for a moment.
I’m a homoromantic asexual. That means I am interested in women for romantic partners. I’m also on the sex positive side of the spectrum. I would want to have sex with my partner at some point.
And for the first time in my life I’ve been more actively looking for someone to be in a romantic relationship with. However, I feel like I’m in a weird limbo. I’ve joined communities of both asexuals and lesbians and I feel like I fit into neither.
Lesbians seem to be very about the sex and I can’t join in when they post attractive (to them) women to the page, or ask about bedroom activities. Having no sexual attraction to women either, the posts are boring to me and incite little action. Having never been in a relationship past hand-holding keeps me out of the other. I could fake this I suppose to fit in, but I wear my honesty outwardly.
But the ace groups I joined are more on the aro/ace side and the people there have little to no interest in sex at all (Which I would still want in my relationship).
Its weird being in the middle of these two areas. And I think its a difficulty that may not be talked about much within the ace community. I’m still relatively new to it, but still.