#discourse post

[faerie-fangs]

trans people in real life dont use tma/tme instead they are cool and nice

[sertralineman]

about the "trans men did nothing in history" sentiment and the post i reblogged ealier. friends, i get being misinformed, but do i need to fucking remind you about billy tipton, a jazzman, who lived as his true self for 55 years, just to get posthumously outed and have a biography written about him, reffering to him as a "crossdressing woman"? or about Dr. James Barry, a prominent surgeon, said to "entertain the male role" for the sake of his studies even though he lived as a man in both his public and private life for 56 years, also outed posthumously despite him being adamant to not examine his body after death?

these are just two most well-known examples because the entire topic requires months, even years of research, but i want you to recall every single female historical figure you heard about who "dressed as a man to go to university" or "pretended to be male to do whatever" and genuinely think about how many of them could have been trans men or nonbinary people. just a little thought experiment, alright? many of them could've been cis, but i want you to just think about the possibility. think back to everything notable that women did in history, and ask yourself why trans men might've been grouped with them, okay?

the problem is that we'll never know, because us trans men have been stripped of our history and agency (a mix of misogyny and transphobia, and before anyone asks how do trans men experience misogyny, we are seen as women by anyone who does not respect our identity, that's fucking how you genius). the sentiment of "she was buried as a man but had female genitalia, definitely just a girlboss pretending to be a man!!! u go girl!!11!1" frames the entire idea of being a transgender man as "pretending" to "be someone else" to "escape the patriarchy", which invalidates our struggle and identity and is just as ridiculous as the transphobic belief that trans women are "pretending to be women" to gain access to women's locker rooms. being men is our truth, not a costume, any trans person knows how that works. so i'll have to kindly ask anyone who says "trans men were not as important to history as trans women" to shut up for a moment and think for even a second about how the world works, okay?

[transfemme-shelterdog]

Something just occurred to me.

So, all this talk about how "men don't belong in women's sports"?

It's always the term "men" and "women". Meanwhile, these laws that they're passing focus on youth sports, typically high-school level athletics. These aren't men and women, they're boys and girls. But the language used purposely attempts to invoke the mental image of some full-grown man, playing with a group of young girls.

That's just straight up transmisogyny

[transgwender616]

Me seeing discourse for a community/ fandom i'm not apart of

[unfamiliar-ghostly-system]

I think people are too mean about BookTok books. People enjoy reading non-deep stuff, it's fine. You can walk past the BookTok and such display tables in the book store.

[niraves]

We have to put queerbaiting on the shelf

[themedusaslinks]

stance on paraphilia discourse down there tw csa mentions and pedophilia

pedophiles this pedophiles that the word youre searching for is not "pedophile" try "child abuser" or "groomer" next time

pedophilia and alike paraphilias refers only to the atraction and sure if you act upon it youre an abuser and you harm people but not everyone with an attraction will act on it

and not everyone sexually harming children likes them a lot of people do it for reasons like power

some people being bad dosent mean that you should shit on people for an attraction they cant controll

even in therapy for paraphilics disorders the goal is to make the paraphile accept themself and reduce selfhatred unless the paraphile has trouble not harming people (and i dont believe a therapist or psychologist or anyone should have to say something for it to be true)

if their presence in your spaces make you uncomfortable theres no issue to add them to your dni but dont shit on paraphiles even if their paraphilias make you uncomfortable and be respectfull in neutral/shared/not your space and please dont post paraphile hate into paraphile tags

(paraphiles feel free to correct us if we said something wrong)