#disinheritance

[words-and-coffee]

I can’t imagine it: her face. I was born and she was already gone. I was born, and my grandmother was already wed and lifted and left alone with eight children and so much of the story already nothing. So yes, I feel most like my grandmother when someone is scraping my name out of me. I feel most like my grandmother’s mother when I’m already gone. When I’m peeled down to my seam. When I lift my skin and smell—nothing. No rot. No story. Not even the emptiness of salt.

Franny Choi, The World Keeps Ending, and the World Goes On - Disinheritance

[remembertheplunge]

Pluto mission starts today. 9 year mission. 2015.

1/19/2006. Thursday. 12:29pm

I slept off and on last night from 9pm to 5:15 am or so. My stomach was odd, leading to strong, lost, homesick bad dreams. One dream was about my parent’s home, my childhood home, in Atwater , California. In the dream, the house was falling apart and down into a large ravine like basement beneath it.I was preparing to move away from the house  when this happened.

Just dusk. 5:46pm

Talked to mom. She flys out to see her sister Blanche tomorrow. Mary drives her to the Fresno airport. Mary and Dan pick her up. Blanche, my mother’s oldest sister, will move to Omaha to be near relatives. (Blanche was born in 1914).

Wilson Picket died today. 1941-2006.  He co- wrote the song “In the midnight hour”.

Pluto mission starts today. 9 year flight. 2015. On board are the ashes of the man who discovered Pluto in 1930.

Note

The Pluto mission was called New Horizon’s. It was the first mission to the Pluto System and the Kuiper belt. It’s closest approach to Pluto was on July 14, 2015.

The Pluto mission was kind of like the journal mission. The journal carries the ashes of the past into the future where they are revived, reinterpreted and transform the present.

Regarding my dream about my parent’s house, it’s interesting that within 6 years , it would “come true”. The house and the warmth and security it once represented fell into the ravine of family division and disinheritance.

“In the midnight hour” is one of my favorite treadmill songs now. I treadmill 35 minutes a day. Often, I do it to 1960’s music.

Blanche moved into a retirement home in Omaha. In October 2006, I flew back to Lincoln and Omaha for a family reunion (my mom’ s family). We had lunch  with Blanche there at the retirement home.  Growing up, I always felt close to Blanche. After the disinheritance, I cut off communication with the family including Blanche. I learned about a year ago from cousin Debbie that Blanche died. I think she was close to 100 when she died. She had been a nurse in the Navy(?) and had served as a nurse during WWII in Europe. She never married and had no children.

[beautifulsnake2162020]

To the LGBTQ+ community, please check if one of the legal grounds for being disinherited or disowned in your state is simply being LGBTQ+. I just finished my class on Succession wherein today we were discussing the grounds for a child to be disinherited from the will of a testator and one of them was simply living a "dishonorable life" (this is what the legal provision actually says). And we had a debate on who had the right to determine what is "dishonorable" or immoral; a testator who is conservative and who has a son who despite being a well accomplished citizen, and a good person is disinherited because he is gay and living with a same sex partner (same sex marriage is not legal in my state)?; or is it secular society who determines what is moral and can therefore rule that simply being a part of the LGBTQ+ community while discounting all other aspects of a person's life is an invalid ground to be disinherited?

There's no jurisprudence yet from my state ruling on this but it is something to think about. Check if the laws of your state has an express provision or a ruling jurisprudence which clarifies things. Disinheritance is a big thing and I know that not all biological families are accepting or progressive. Disinheritance could cut-off any resources that would otherwise be yours as ensured by the law. I'm not saying that you should reconnect with any biological family who has disowned or abused you simply because you are LGBTQ+ but rather to look at the consequences of being disinherited and to see if there is any chance simply being yourself is a ground for it (because let's face it we still have a long way to go as an entire world before it becomes illegal to disinherit based on a person's SOGI).

If you feel that you might be disinherited, start saving resources for your future self.

And before anything else please consult with a lawyer whom you trust (because I will admit that there are plenty out there who exploit long processes to get more money). Huge emphasis on this because this is just a post of a law student in law school who just needs to share what I've learned in my Succession class.

[creeping-shadow-heralds-storms]

Elderly Spaniards disinherit their children after being abandoned to lonely lockdowns

Thousands of elderly Spaniards are taking the vengeful step of disinheriting their children if they have shown no regard for their well-bein

“Our motto is ‘if they don’t look after you, don’t leave them anything’,” Marcel Cornellá, who runs an association for the elderly in the Madrid suburb of Fuenlabrada, told the Sunday Telegraph. 

Mr Cornellá said he has been receiving 220 calls a month from elderly people asking for advice on how to disinherit a child or children, five times more than pre-pandemic levels.

“Typically, this is a problem that was already there and now it has come to the surface as people suffer confinement and health problems,” said Mr Cornellá, citing the example of an 81-year-old widow who had no contact from her daughter for 18 months despite suffering from terminal cancer. 

“This law of forced inheritance is from the time of horse and carts, and has nothing to do with today’s world. People should be free to choose what they wish to do with their property," he added.

In Spain only Navarre and the Basque Country regions make it easy for parents to disinherit offspring. Elsewhere, the law says that parents must demonstrate cause for doing so, such as physical abuse.

“Fortunately, judges are interpreting the law more kindly, and we have rulings now where the psychological suffering caused by a complete lack of contact is being equated to mistreatment,” said Madrid lawyer Francisco Rubiales.

[words-and-coffee]

I feel most like my grandmother when someone is scraping my name out of me. I feel most like my grandmother’s mother when I’m already gone. When I’m peeled down to my seam. When I lift my skin and smell—nothing. No rot. No story. Not even the emptiness of salt.

Franny Choi, The World Keeps Ending, and the World Goes On - Disinheritance

[words-and-coffee]

To avoid being stolen, I stripped myself of scent. I rubbed in salt till I bled.

Franny Choi, The World Keeps Ending, and the World Goes On - Disinheritance

[words-and-coffee]

I stand at the beach to watch history unrot, unwaft, walk back into the water. So long, origin- storyteller. By the way, my grandmother’s mother was either scraped from the earth during the war, or she never existed in the first place.

Franny Choi, The World Keeps Ending, and the World Goes On - Disinheritance

[jonathanmoya1955]

Little Father

Because I can not bury my father in the skyI burn him and spread his ashes on the ground.He loved birds yet did not feed them crumbs—jut caught them in the color of their being.He would watch the mower plow the field,watch the hand fill the feeders with seedfeeling the tranquility of the man-made ponddrift towards him as he pulled the blanket from his chin and felt the breeze ruffle his…

Little Father