Oh, to play a bonded elf on a quest to find their other half as a creeping sense of doom wracks their mind.
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Oh, to play a bonded elf on a quest to find their other half as a creeping sense of doom wracks their mind.
So uhhh Valryn got an update. He is a wizard nowww and has twins so he is a sleep deprived single father in Barovia
Dang, I kinda wish when I became an adult people gave me the tools of my trade and a house. Would have made the transition to adulthood a lot smoother.
I was for looking more elf funeral info for an Astarion think piece I was going to write and then dump in my drafts so that it may never see the light of day when I found this!
YAY! I have confirmation that my drow PC can go to elven heaven! I didn’t know this was possible and quite frankly didn’t think it likely but I’ve never been more happy to be wrong. Now someone tell my drow bard this so that she can stop agonizing about it.
Imagine being told by your unborn child that the name you picked out sucks. Kid doesn’t know anything and still has opinions.
It should be noted that there are three sources that I could find that all gave different gestational times for elves that range from 9 month - 2 years. Personally I think 2 years is far too long. That’s longer than some species of elephants.
(This excerpt comes from dragon magazine #279 2001)
Side by side Elven and Drow perspective: Love and Marriage.
Despite the obvious bias against the drow perspective on love, I think their attitudes are more similar than they seem at first glance.
There’s obviously the more liberal views on sex, as well as both societies having no stigma against children born out of wedlock, but I think it goes a little deeper…
One could say that the Elven need for freedom and independence is just the Drow’s mistrust and fear of weakness painted in a more positive light. Both of these groups find the idea of love and commitment daunting. Elves because they fear that needing someone and being needed by them will chain them down and limit their individuality, Drow because to need someone else is to be weak and to open oneself up to betrayal.
Drow handle their fears by limiting the closeness with their romantic partners, keeping them at an arms length and never fully trusting their doubts and fears (weaknesses) to them, lest they be used against them. All trust is foolishness, after all, and physical intimacy seems the lesser of two evils. I think this is also why a drow will seek out a partner of lesser station, because then that drow will have the barrier of social standing between the two of them.
Elves however, handle their fears a little differently. I find it interesting that the snippet says elves are more likely to get into long term committed relationships with shorter lived races. It’s safer. An elf can be free to love and be loved without worrying about spending their whole life with this person. They get 50(ish) blissful years and maybe a half elf or two out of the experience. Even when they do end up in a long term relationship with another elf, marriage is still a little too daunting (which makes complete sense given what elven marriages entail).
(I hope this doesn’t sound like I’m being dismissive. This isn’t meant as criticism, it’s meant as commentary on the lore.)
TLDR: the drow are just as capable of love as the elves, lore books are biased, both of these views on love make perfect sense for the society they live in, and whoever said the drow don’t have a word for “selfless love” is on my list.
Imagine escaping your oppressive theocracy, braving the tunnels of the Underdark, fighting or fleeing countless monsters, finally making it to an entrance to the surface…only to murdered by these guys.
I understand that this to prevent raids, but everything I’ve read about these guys tells me they wouldn’t bat a single eye at killing a lone drow. Like these guys barely let the Eilistraeen Drow live.