i wrote this on facebook but it's so long, i may as well put it here
You. Guise. MEN ARE CONFUSING AS F. this is super long and if you’re bored you can be happy that you’re not me. It’s like actually a novel about my weird experiences in dating
The guy that had been pursuing me before, (so sexy) he asked me on a date in December. I was seeing this guy, Tom, my friends just call him the doctor for nicknames sake. Sexy Guy and the Doctor. So I said no. Months later, I’m single, I tell Sexy Guy, he asks to hangout, I move forward and ask him when he’s asking me on a date (bold!) and last night he tells me that he just wants to hang out platonically.
BUT I know when I saw him last week he was feeling me. I know this for sure. Sexy Guy would be a great friend because he likes art, poetry, discussing colonialism, being built and being sexy.
AM I ALLOWED TO SHOW YOU HIS PICTURE? and I am fully making a blog. It’s danidates.tumblr.com, it has nothing on it so far.
OK so let’s move back to the Doctor. After he dumped me, we had a short two month..thing… Well reasons he gave me ended up being we communicate differently, wish we were friends first, I’m going through a shitty time, his uncle had just died, he’s work focused first year residency etcetc, things that seemed legit but also excuses. And after he said he wanted us to be friends, I said no. But then I changed my mind cos I missed him and also sex. Buuut I didn’t see him after, just ended up like drunk texting him this essay once about something stupid. Like, “I miss you, just as friends, my med school friends are here and I can’t ask you anything, it’s weird.” To which he replied short, “No, you’re not crazy. Let’s hangout.”
I was told that this seemed like a pat on the back kind of thing (which I thought it was too) because he iiiis quite nice. I wasn’t really over him then though.
So after that I have no contact with him at all, but he does start randomly liking posts on my insta and my facebook and WHY does that mean something. But I hadn’t talked to him in a month.
I looked at my fb messages yesterday and I noticed that I hadn’t replied to our last conversation, I had responded by drunk texting him a few days later lol. ANYWAY I reply back finally, like hey sorry, how’s your fam, and he replies back, basically saying that he’s happy I replied to him and that he didn’t think I wanted to talk to him/seemed really busy/that’s ok. He’d seen on facebook that I was posting photos and whatever else..
And I was like, what, I drunk texted you! And he says, ” I don’t recall any drunken texts, except when I responded and you didn’t reply back!”
IF you have made it through thus far, and have read my other posts, I was complaining before that I often get texts from dudes that are all, ” Y CAN U SOCIAL MEDIA BUT NO TEXT ME BACK.” Um it has occurred to me that Tom/doctor had been thinking the same but did not act it out in an annoying way.
JUST WHAT. my friends, we all thought he’d been nicely responding (before) cos, he just nice, and been distancing himself. But no, he’s been paying attention to what I’ve been doing for the month (it’s been exactly a month since I drunk texted him, no other contact other than some facebook liking lol) ALSO I saw him back on OKC, so I thought he was dating again. That’s when at some point I became emo and dragged myself out to interact with men and or women, just to move on.
SO in the process of talking to him, talking about his life my life blah, at the end I stick in, “So! meet any nice ladies? Too early?”
He more or less tells me (after being specific with my questions) that he is in fact…just working. No ladies, nobody “at all.”
"What about you", he asks.
Uuuuh me, me me. Let’s see, do I want to tell him that I’ve kissed at least three guys since, and maybe women uuhhhh…well…No.
I kind of side stepped it a funny way, said there are lots of ladies. But admitted with guys it’s the same old, guys that won’t go away.
So at the end he says, let’s finish texting tomorrow, I’m falling asleep. and blah blah it ends with him going, “yes let’s hang out. Alright further planning tomorrow”
Soooooooooo if for some reason you read that novel
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I do not understand men AT ALL, if I wrote a dating blog it would be all, I DO NOT UNDERSTAND MEN EVERYTHING I THINK IS ACTUALLY OPPOSITE. I mean, Tom really caught me off guard, I really thought he just wanted nothing to do with me? AND ADRIANO I THOUGHT YOU WERE INTO ME WTF I KNOW YOU ARE OK
even if you didn’t read this I feel better lol TY TY TY
UPDATE: he was drunk and pretended he didn’t say it the next day