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Rapper Cardi B was spotted headed to Celebrity Makeup Artist Pat McGrath's Mothership Ball

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Oh no baby…what is you doing?

I recently had a conversation with one of my homegirls that centered around self sabotaging. Listen I’m no stranger to this cancerous way of life… in fact I’ve done some self sabotaging this year. I’m not proud of it but it happened. It seems as if every time I am awarded some opportunity the following things happen:

1. I feel unworthy 2. I get depressed 3. I began to doubt myself 4. I talk myself out of doing whatever the opportunity was

Prior to my conversation I felt like I was sliding back into my old ways. This time the pattern was different. I told myself I was pausing to get my bearings yet as soon as my friend utter those words I felt in my spirit that I was actively participating in some sort of self sabotaging behavior. While my girl was on the phone I decided to pull myself from the edge.

Once we realize that we are in fact the culprit, how do we stop this abusive behavior towards ourselves?

1. Be real with yourself …if you’re like me you re-evaluate often

…getting to a point where you can identify that YOU are the problem is a leap in itself. 2. Re-examine the beliefs about your self that limit and control you. Make a list of all the negative things that people have said about you…you know all the things you’ve internalized. (Make a ritual of it…. barn fire that list, chile.) remember that you can’t stop what people say about you but you can stop yourself from claiming that curse. 3. Accept that YOU are YOU! We often creep to self sabotaging because we loose focus on the things WE need to do. We end up focused on what other people can do. You’re DOPE, period! Don’t you forget it. 4. Realize that you can’t take responsibility for other people’s dreams and goals. This is your life! If you want to live your best life, you have to LIVE. Other people’s goals and dreams will work out at there expected time. You dreams, however need you to be front and center! 5. Reaffirm yourself! Maybe it’s a mantra uttered when you’re about to start something difficult or maybe you’re taking a cue from Being Mary Jane by writing on sticky note pads. Doesn’t matter what method you take just create affirmations for yourself to be recited daily!!!!! 6. Talk to someone!!!!! Find a confidante, therapist, someone! Get in a safe place and talk it out. Let’s take back our lives and manifest these dreams!!!!!

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How often do we think about we say before we say it?

I find myself in an interesting space, I’m not certain it’s emotionally charged. I listen, I hear but I’m not slow to react. I think about what people say. I guess you can say I stew on it. I do it unconsciously and often times I wonder

Is that what you really think of me? People are wild man... in the last month I’ve learned a lot about how friends think of me. Lol and they always preference the conversation with “ I mean that’s just how you are” when it’s more like “that’s just all you know”

I’m being vague ...please forgive me ...I’m still processing

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I’m re-evaluating my style so I started my week off with business casual.... How’d your this week’s style start for you?

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Fashion based publications have been shaking up things in the last couple of months...

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Two words for Tom Ford’s latest scent

Fucking Fabulous

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Personal Style!!!!!

So here’s Wednesday’s personal style moment. Closets are magical places, don’t you feel the same way?

I’m currently in a transitional period with my wardrobe and personal style, so I’m going through my closet and tossing things out. I will not lie to you all…I AM a hoarder when it comes to clothing, shoes and accessories. I can find something to do with any item in my closet(I’ll chalk that up to the stylist in me) and yet I realize that where I want to go career wise doesn’t necessarily translate through my wardrobe.

Your personal style is your business card before you even pull out your business card. What you wear can literally draw people to you or away from you. Keeping this mind constantly, I’m making major adjustments.

Stay tuned!!!!

Fit Deetz Green Crop: Nicki Minaj Collection (K-Mart, discontinued) Black and White Printed Pants: H&M Printed Wedges: Aldo Moto Jacket: Topman

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As a woman who doesn’t always see my body type in represented in the industry….. shout out to all the plus size taste makers!!!!!!!!