***********THE TEN BUFFER VALUES********* In a KOP POSITIVITY VIDEO that I made and posted the other day, I spoke about the TEN BUFFER VALUES, and stated that I believed that these values were actually directed towards a place of business, but that we can easily adapt them in our lives. I didn't know what BUFFER was, but I really dug their system of 10 values! I have since found out that BUFFER is a business that will help you drive traffic and increase fan engagement on your social media sites,and so I would like to give credit where credit is due, and thank BUFFER for these ten wonderful values that we can apply not only at our place of business, and on our social media, but in our everyday lives as well! 1) ALWAYS CHOOSE POSITIVITY AND HAPPINESS. We have a choice between positivity and negativity. When having a tough time choosing, take the time to write a list of reasons to be positive and reasons to be negative. Go through the list of negatives and eliminate them one by one...reaffirming yourself with each one, that a smile is better than a frown. A song is better than an argument. Love is better than hate. Good is better than bad...and so on. Take each negative reason written on your sheet, and replace it with one positive thing. Then go through your positive list. Read each one and then say something good about the reason to be positive...such as I AM SO MUCH HAPPIER WHEN I REMAIN POSITIVE...and/or... I CAN MAKE OTHERS HAPPY BY SAYING POSITIVE THINGS TO THEM. See how much better writing things down on paper, and using positive thought to get rid of the negative, and make the positive come to light? It may feel a bit silly to do this exercise at first. But you will find that it gets easier the more that you practice it, and after awhile, the hope is that you will remain positive as much as you possibly can, eliminating the need to do this exercise anymore! 2) DEFAULT TO TRANSPARENCY. Default to transparency basically means that you don't withhold important information. No secrets. If you know that something is going to hurt another person, then please let people know the danger, or the bad outcome of that decision. It is not good for our spirits to keep things that we know could help others to ourselves. What good is being selfish and uncaring? It is NO GOOD, and there is absolutely NO GOOD in it. It is a self serving, greedy attitude to take, and it is NOT flattering to anyone. This is not to say that we should blab our utmost inner secrets/family secrets to the world. There are some things that are better left unsaid. But if what you know could save one from embarrassment, hurt feelings, or even harm, then it is the right thing to do to default to transparency. 3) HAVE A FOCUS ON SELF IMPROVEMENT. Focusing on and improving yourself is not selfish in anyway. That is not to say that in order to focus on yourself and your self improvement that you are to hurt another (either mentally, physically, spiritually, or emotionally) in the process. Always focus on the self and making improvements towards a happier and healthier you and you will see that the results will spread outward...making others copy your good behaviors! 4) BE A "NO-EGO-DOER". You don't attach your personal self to ideas • • You are humble You let others have your best ideas You approach new ideas thinking “what can we do right now?” Share your ideas with others and make for a happier environment. After all...by sharing ideas with others, they may be able to add towards a better outcome! 5) LISTEN FIRST, THEN LISTEN MORE. I...LOVE...THIS....VALUE! Listening can give you restraint and also pure mannerisms and politeness when dealing with the world. Listen to what people have to say and offer. Listen to them as though they have the greatest idea ever known to man and they have chosen to tell YOU! Listen intently and positively, without interruption. Listen to understand. Save your comments/questions until the end of the topic. You will feel proud and satisfied with yourself to know that you gave someone the utmost respect and kindness to have listened to their thoughts and ideas, and given them the respect, and kindness that we all deserve. 6) HAVE A BIAS TOWARDS CLARITY. Instead of using big words that some may not understand, speak with clarity. Take the time to put meaning and thought into your statements. Don't get an attitude if you are asked to repeat things. Expect to repeat things for not everyone will automatically catch on to your thoughts and ideas when you first express them. Give them dignity by having clarity and patience. Don't ever assume that you know something that you do not know, or that you know more than you really actually know. This will make you seem ignorant and rude, and will also make you out to be someone who uses false statements as fact, therefore, having no one want to reach out to you with their questions, and also lose faith in your ability. 7) MAKE TIME TO REFLECT. Understand that often life changing adjustments come from reflection. Self reflection will improve your thought process, and patience skills. Take the time to enter a few moments of peaceful silence in solitude to clarify anything that may seem not quite right, or thoughts that are not yet complete with your approval or understanding. Reflect on what is being said, portrayed, envisioned, and/or presented to you and take the time to know yourself and your opinions and your ability to ponder certain thoughts and points and to value the true understanding that you can reach. 8) LIVE SMARTER/NOT HARDER. You learn to understand and practice to be in the present. You focus your energy on being your very best self mentally, physically, emotionally,and spiritually. Value your free time and resting your body so that you can be at peak performance on the job, with family and friends, and with pets and nature. Maintain your health so that you can perform any task asked of you...or at least put your very best effort in. Do not waste time doing anything more than you actually need to. Multi task when possible, and don't work until you are depleted of all energy (physical and spiritual). 9) SHOW GRATITUDE. Practice the old saying SHOW GRATITUDE, NOT ATTITUDE. Know that people suffer through much worse, and that things could also be much worse for you. Show gratitude in everything that you do, with everyone that you work with, and everyone that you know...with all of you loved ones, and cherish your family. Be grateful for the life that you live and grateful that you aren't suffering like that "one person" that you know, or have heard about, or read about. 10) DO THE RIGHT THING. Getting excited when you go that extra mile. Knowing in your mind and heart that you have the ability to make someone smile today. Take the opportunity to make things right, correct mistakes, right wrongs, forgive others, perform random acts of kindness, know your own self worth, and love yourself and your life. You know what the right thing is in your mind and soul. So just DO THE RIGHT THING. Do what you know is right. Be righteous. It's the only way to be.
I hope that you have enjoyed breaking those down with me. Please comment below with anything else that you can add as far as living our best and most positive lifestyles. Do you have another tip that can help others learn and grow both spiritually and emotionally? Please share with us in the comments below. Thanks for reading and I hope to have some more good stuff up very soon. Until then, Peace and love to you all.