Nonsex/nonro normative: when you experience nonsexuality or nonromanticism as 100%, entirely normal, and you experience the idea of sex or romance to be entirely abnormal, unexpected, unrelateable to or odd.
If you're nonsex/nonro normative, you experience most or all of the following:
surprised that sex/romance exists
surprised that anyone actually engages in sex/romance
surprised that anyone actually takes sex/romance seriously
weirded out when others around you started caring about sex/romance, or outright didnt even notice because you didnt believe they were serious
surprised anyone would expect you to be interested in sex/romance
surprised anyone expected you to find sex/romance normal
expected your peers to find sex/romance as weird as you do
didnt expect there to be societal pressure to engage in sex/romance
instinctually not experience there being anything more normal about being allo than being aspec
not feel like/relate to why you're "supposed" to engage in sex/romance
not feel like there's anything broken about being aspec
not relate to how anyone could find being aspec abnormal
generally didnt expect to live in this world where sex/romance is a norm
Note 1: nonsex/nonro normativity is not a political viewpoint or belief of that allos should be treated worse, its simply an experience.
Note 2: i chose "nonsex" and "nonro" instead of "ace" and "aro" because i know not all aces and aros experience this, and they're not less ace or aro for that.