WORDS

A place for coining words. Why? 1. They can be useful 2. I wanna

[doxi-term-coining]

Apothisexual Dysphoria: the extreme discomfort and dis-identification felt by sex repulsed people towards any sexual feelings they may have, such as libido.

[doxi-term-coining]

Updating this term; I think it should be called “sex repulsed dysphoria”, as sex repulsed is a more widely known term than apothisexual.

I’d also like to update the definition to include any sexual traits, whether their feelings such as libido, or sexual organs, or other things; and also to update it so that the term can refer to any amount of this dysphoria, not just “extreme discomfort”.

Also a clarification that this is not the same as disliking one’s sexual traits due to gender dysphoria.

[aroaceenjolras]

Glorious work, OP.

As the creator of the dysphoria model of sex repulsion (a thing you may or may not have been aware of, I learned a hard lesson on my fandom blog last year about not assuming people are already aware of a thing I made) I find this a very useful addition to the theory, which originally only encompassed repulsion as a type of social sexual dysphoria that arises in response to an externally imposed expectation of sexuality that one does not possess. The idea of it arising in response to internal feelings or traits a person does not want is incredibly compatible with the existing work I've done on the dysphoria model and I'm honestly a bit disappointed in myself for not filling that gap earlier knowing it's definitely a thing I also experience.

Thank you for this.

Edited to add: This was posted in 2020??? Oh my fucking god y'all my life is a lieeee I am so sorry for making your post from 2020 about a thing I made a couple months ago

[doxi-term-coining]

Hey no worries! I’m glad it resonates with you (and others)! (Although I did have a mini heart attack reading “Glorious work, OP.” in my notifications and not knowing if it was sarcastic or not, thanks to Tumblr(tm) lol)

[doxi-term-coining]

Apothisexual Dysphoria: the extreme discomfort and dis-identification felt by sex repulsed people towards any sexual feelings they may have, such as libido.

[doxi-term-coining]

Updating this term; I think it should be called “sex repulsed dysphoria”, as sex repulsed is a more widely known term than apothisexual.

I’d also like to update the definition to include any sexual traits, whether their feelings such as libido, or sexual organs, or other things; and also to update it so that the term can refer to any amount of this dysphoria, not just “extreme discomfort”.

Also a clarification that this is not the same as disliking one’s sexual traits due to gender dysphoria.

[no-rom-self-insert]

Alternate Terms For Platonic/Familial F/Os

We’ve seen some discussion here and there about how people who self insert might not be comfortable calling fictional friends or family F/Os, as it stands for fictional other and is more associated romance. I was surprised no one has purposed any alternate terms yet, so I’ll give it a shot. 

Reasons for these terms are the following: 

1. It’s less clunky than writing platonic F/O, parental F/O, etc. The main use of F/O also feels like it’s prioritizing romantic relationships with non-romantic relationships as an afterthought. 

2. In some cases calling a character an F/O can be unclear or confusing about the relationship. 

3. Some may be uncomfortable calling characters they view as family a word that comes from significant other or is based on shipping. 

F/F or Fictional Friend, a character who one views as having a friend relation towards them in self insert or other context. F/Fr or FFr can also be used to prevent confusion between FF as in Fanfic and F/F. 

Exampe: Ribbot from Animal Crossing is my F/F, and I like to draw my self insert as being friends with him. 

F/QPP or fictional Queer Platonic Partner, a character who one views as being a queerplatonic partner in self insert or other context.

Example: Viktor from Slime Rancher is my F/QPP. 

F/R or Fictional Relation, a character who one views as having a family relation towards them in self insert or other context.

Terms can also come from this in F/CR being fictional child relation, F/PR being fictional parent relation, F/SR being fictional sibling relation, etc. 

Example: I have an F/R with Ash from Pokemon, he’s my F/SR because I grew up with the series and I write us in self inserts as siblings. 

[no-rom-self-insert]

I’m going to try to spread this around, sorry if any of you didn’t want to be pinged! 

@platonic-f-o-things​ @fictional-buddy-imagines​ @selfshipshoutouts​ @selfshippingmailbox​ @selfshipbulletin​ @fictionalarocrushes​ @fictional-crush-imagines @incorrectselfshipquotes

[doxi-term-coining]

Nonsex/nonro normative: when you experience nonsexuality or nonromanticism as 100%, entirely normal, and you experience the idea of sex or romance to be entirely abnormal, unexpected, unrelateable to or odd.

If you're nonsex/nonro normative, you experience most or all of the following:

surprised that sex/romance exists

surprised that anyone actually engages in sex/romance

surprised that anyone actually takes sex/romance seriously

weirded out when others around you started caring about sex/romance, or outright didnt even notice because you didnt believe they were serious

surprised anyone would expect you to be interested in sex/romance

surprised anyone expected you to find sex/romance normal

expected your peers to find sex/romance as weird as you do

didnt expect there to be societal pressure to engage in sex/romance

instinctually not experience there being anything more normal about being allo than being aspec

not feel like/relate to why you're "supposed" to engage in sex/romance

not feel like there's anything broken about being aspec

not relate to how anyone could find being aspec abnormal

generally didnt expect to live in this world where sex/romance is a norm

Note 1: nonsex/nonro normativity is not a political viewpoint or belief of that allos should be treated worse, its simply an experience.

Note 2: i chose "nonsex" and "nonro" instead of "ace" and "aro" because i know not all aces and aros experience this, and they're not less ace or aro for that.

[doxi-term-coining]

Acespade/arospade: When you're aroace, but you lean/relate closer to either the ace or aro aspects. Not the same as being non-SAM ace or aro; this is specifically for if you do identify as aroace, its just you want to highlight a particular part of it. (Spade taken from the term "spadillic", which is a non-SAM word for aroace.)

[doxi-term-coining]

Apothisexual Dysphoria: the extreme discomfort and dis-identification felt by sex repulsed people towards any sexual feelings they may have, such as libido.

[doxi-term-coining]

New word: Xush

Xush (pronounced “zush”): umbrella term for “crushes”; word for a non-specific crush. alternative to calling them all “crushes”, since that can get confusing since crush is already used for a specific type of crush (romantic). Spelt with an x to indicate the non-specificity of it.

Example uses:

Ex. 1: “I have a xush on [character]!” “Oh, what kind?” “I don’t know exactly, but it sure is a xush!”

Ex. 2: “Crushes, squishes, and meshes are three types of xushes that are usually based on emotional feelings”

[no-rom-self-insert]

Fictoplatonic + Fictofamilial

Consider this I guess a coining post? Although it’s pretty much just combining words haha. 

We’ve been talking to other fictos and realized the general lack of a term for platonic attraction towards fictional characters, as compared with sexual or romantic. 

From this, we came up with fictoplatonic. 

Fictoplatonic is an umbrella term which refers to experiencing strong platonic attraction towards fictional characters or experiencing squishes towards fictional characters. 

We also wound up making a flag for it, which is based largely on the fictosexual and fictoromantic flags, but with yellow as it feels like a good color for platonic love. 

The second term that we came up with from looking at a lack of terminology was fictofamilial. 

This one is much more broad and not one we’d consider to be an orientation or related as much to being aromantic like we had in mind with fictoplatonic, but rather an experience. 

Fictofamilial is an umbrella term denoting familial attachments of any kind towards fictional characters. This can include viewing them as parents, children, siblings, etc.

There is no flag for two reasons. First is we were unable to come up with a color pallet that felt distinct enough, and second we felt a flag might not be needed as much and the term itself is good enough. 

[no-rom-self-insert]

Fictoplatonic + Fictofamilial

Consider this I guess a coining post? Although it’s pretty much just combining words haha. 

We’ve been talking to other fictos and realized the general lack of a term for platonic attraction towards fictional characters, as compared with sexual or romantic. 

From this, we came up with fictoplatonic. 

Fictoplatonic is an umbrella term which refers to experiencing strong platonic attraction towards fictional characters or experiencing squishes towards fictional characters. 

We also wound up making a flag for it, which is based largely on the fictosexual and fictoromantic flags, but with yellow as it feels like a good color for platonic love. 

The second term that we came up with from looking at a lack of terminology was fictofamilial. 

This one is much more broad and not one we’d consider to be an orientation or related as much to being aromantic like we had in mind with fictoplatonic, but rather an experience. 

Fictofamilial is an umbrella term denoting familial attachments of any kind towards fictional characters. This can include viewing them as parents, children, siblings, etc.

There is no flag for two reasons. First is we were unable to come up with a color pallet that felt distinct enough, and second we felt a flag might not be needed as much and the term itself is good enough. 

[no-rom-self-insert]

Alternate Terms For Platonic/Familial F/Os

We’ve seen some discussion here and there about how people who self insert might not be comfortable calling fictional friends or family F/Os, as it stands for fictional other and is more associated romance. I was surprised no one has purposed any alternate terms yet, so I’ll give it a shot. 

Reasons for these terms are the following: 

1. It’s less clunky than writing platonic F/O, parental F/O, etc. The main use of F/O also feels like it’s prioritizing romantic relationships with non-romantic relationships as an afterthought. 

2. In some cases calling a character an F/O can be unclear or confusing about the relationship. 

3. Some may be uncomfortable calling characters they view as family a word that comes from significant other or is based on shipping. 

F/F or Fictional Friend, a character who one views as having a friend relation towards them in self insert or other context. F/Fr or FFr can also be used to prevent confusion between FF as in Fanfic and F/F. 

Exampe: Ribbot from Animal Crossing is my F/F, and I like to draw my self insert as being friends with him. 

F/QPP or fictional Queer Platonic Partner, a character who one views as being a queerplatonic partner in self insert or other context.

Example: Viktor from Slime Rancher is my F/QPP. 

F/R or Fictional Relation, a character who one views as having a family relation towards them in self insert or other context.

Terms can also come from this in F/CR being fictional child relation, F/PR being fictional parent relation, F/SR being fictional sibling relation, etc. 

Example: I have an F/R with Ash from Pokemon, he’s my F/SR because I grew up with the series and I write us in self inserts as siblings. 

[doxi-term-coining]

Newwww word: Anarch

Anarch (noun): an individual act of anarchy

To anarch (verb): to do something anarchic

Example usages:

“The use of new words not yet accepted as ‘real words’ is a language anarch”

“Choosing to live with my friends instead of my romantic partner is a relationship anarch”

“I’m anarching all day baby B)”

[doxi-term-coining]

New word: Xush

Xush (pronounced “zush”): umbrella term for “crushes”; word for a non-specific crush. alternative to calling them all “crushes”, since that can get confusing since crush is already used for a specific type of crush (romantic). Spelt with an x to indicate the non-specificity of it.

Example uses:

Ex. 1: “I have a xush on [character]!” “Oh, what kind?” “I don’t know exactly, but it sure is a xush!”

Ex. 2: “Crushes, squishes, and meshes are three types of xushes that are usually based on emotional feelings”

[warriors-pride]

I made some variations of the hetera- flag I used for a request yesterday

Left is heteracespec, center is heterarospec, right is heteraspec

Note that I have this flag as an alternative to the straight flag specifically for straight aspec people, just like I have the transhet flag for straight trans people

Original flag by @beyond-mogai-pride-flags​:

[lovingitaromantic]

[ID: Three hetera- flags. Spaced out for better accessibility, from left to right is heterace-spec, heteraro-spec, and hetera-spec. At the bottom is the original hetera- flag.

flag 1: A heterace-spec flag. There are eight stripes. The colors are purple/gray/white/light gray/gray/dark gray/very dark gray/black-gray.

flag 2: A heteraro-spec flag. The colors are green/gray/white/light gray/gray/dark gray/very dark gray/black-gray.

flag 3: A hetera-spec flag. The colors are dark blue/gray/white/light gray/gray/dark gray/very dark gray/black-gray.

flag 4: A hetera- flag. The colors are black/gray/white/light gray/gray/dark gray/very dark gray/black-gray. End ID]

[this-is-my-aroace-account]

some fun names to call your QPP 

- Quip (my personal favourite) -> Gender neutral, easy to say and rolls of the tongue, clever (you know like a quippy comment?), kind of sounds like if you tried to say QPP as if it were a word and not an acronym really fast and forgot that there was a second p, maybe because you want them with you so you should,,, e-quip them with you, came up with it myself so i’m proud of me

- Queepeepee -> cute apparently, created from forgetting how the letter Q is pronounced, literally just a weird pronunciation of the acronym QPP, 

- Zucchini -> I saw someone on a post call their quip their zucchini and while I despise the vegetable, the concept of the name might be cute 

- Babe -> I started calling my quip this ironically,,, I now cannot stop

- Y o u -> Well, they know you’re talking to them

- The Chosen One –> Installs mystery for anyone in the vicinity, makes your quip seem like they have some fated destiny, you now look like a wise NPC, cute name

- Love -> once again, irony. And the fact that we talk like old British gay men.

- sweetie -> she only calls me this when I’ve done or said something stupid. I am very familiar with the name. 

feel free to add your own

[the-aromantic-dragon]

Quip sounds so coool! Def using this if I ever get into a QPR

[neopronouns]

(1/2)Okay so I’m aromantic but also call myself arovague and I was just thinking about how my ‘vagueness’ influence my willingness(??) to be in relationships more than me being aromantic if that makes sense. So is there a word where one’s feelings about being in relationships (romantic, alterous, qp, platonic, etc.) feels influenced or linked to one’s (in part or wholly) neurodivergence? If not I was thinking about calling it vagueamorous? (or vagueships, vagueian??)

(2/2)if you have a better name to call it I’m all for it!! Thank u for the input!!😁

i really like the idea of this! so the definition would be:

vaguian/vagueamorous: someone whose feelings about being a in relationship (of any type) are influenced by or linked to their own neurodivergence

and as for the terms, i feel like vaguian might be preferred as it sounds like it could be used as both an adjective and a noun, but vaguamorous is also good! and a relationship involving one or more vaguian folks would be called a vagueship!

[doxi-term-coining]

Juvenic sex repulsion: repulsion towards sex and sexual topics to a similar extent that a prepubescent child would experience. Note that this term is not infantilising, in fact it's meant as the opposite to point out that a. such repulsion is real in adults, b. it's important to recognise and respect, and c. people experiencing it shouldn't be infantilised. From the word "juvenile".

[themlike]

As nonbinary = “enby”, petition to call everyone who’s agender/considers themself to be gender neutral “neuts” because not only does it sound cool but it also sounds like “newts” and newts

are rad, babey!!1!