#dreamingofithaca

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What is different about queer parenting? So much. It’s about raising kids in a queer-normative environment. It’s about the way that we create family, which has little to do with blood and a lot to do with love — but we know that — our chosen families have always been bound by love. It’s about how you disrupt heteronormativity and the gender binary and how you help your kid navigate all that in the real world. It’s about considering intersectional feminism as a basis for the worldview you present to your kids. It’s about lots of stuff that we won’t even know or understand until we get there. But it’s not in any book we’ve read yet. Queer parents are changing the narrative, pushing the boundaries of “Heather Has Two Mommies” into new territory.

~ 12 Big Baby-Making Questions This Queer Couple Asked Before Taking The Plunge

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My Father's Request for my OBC

Paul: I mailed an application for my daughter's birth certificate on 4/29 - has it been received & processed?

(her name is grace Whittaker, dob 9/2/88)

NYSDOH: To better assist you where was you daughter born in NYS?

Paul: she was born in Ithaca, at Tompkins Community Hospital. I used the address on the back of the old form I have, which may've changed.

NYSDOH: Your application was receipted on 5/5/15 and was processed. A document was mailed to you on 6/24/15. Please confirm your mailing address.

Paul: I moved recently, from apt. 219 (same building) back into #210 (where I lived from 1993-2013). I have to think the document is lost, at this point. Can you send another copy?

NYSDOH: Because your address is different from the one provided in your application, you will need to send a notarized letter informing us of your current address. Be sure to include the reference number or a printed copy of this email so that we can locate your request.

Paul: No, I'm quite certain the address on my application was the same as reflected by the fact that a copy of the document was mailed on 6/24. If you can't replace the copy that was lost in the mail, pls. return my $30.

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Am I the only adoptee who despises #throwbackthursday?

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I recently received a copy of my original birth certificate, along with legal documentation of an appeal for information about me, from my *father. I know I am incredibly privileged in our community to even have a copy of my OBC, and it does not escape my notice that I may never see the document itself, regardless of how my contact with my *father progresses. The state will still wield it's mythologized authority to tell me who I am and who my family is until the twisted edifice is torn down. This may not be in my own lifetime, but in the meantime I will face the gargoyles that adorn its crenelated walls until we can breach the battlements.