But let your 'Yes' be 'Yes' and your 'No' be ‘No.
Matthew 5:37
I had strong boundaries growing up, but didn’t actively think about them at the time. I never noticed my boundaries until I started to lack them. During college they began to weaken and almost disappear in some areas of my life. I didn’t realize it was an issue at the time, so I never addressed/corrected it.
During my 30s it has become abundantly clear that I need to work on rebuilding and reestablishing my boundaries. I bring this up and want to point it out, because it is an uncomfortable process that I am still currently participating in. I am finding the sooner you establish healthy boundaries, the better off you and everyone in your life will be. Healthy boundaries will create healthy relationships. This will take intentional effort and work, but it will be worth it.
Here are some takeaways from my journey so far:
Boundaries are under-rated.
Boundaries are important.
Boundaries are necessary.
Boundaries should be be respected, always.
Boundaries should be practiced in a safe environment.
Boundaries should be taught at home and in school.
Boundaries are not inconvenient.
Boundaries are not disrespectful.
Boundaries are not to be broken.
If you are struggling with creating healthy boundaries anywhere in your life, I highly recommend the book “Boundaries” by Dr. Henry Cloud. A friend recommended it to me and it has been life changing. I hope it will add value to your life as well. : )