Why don't you just lose weight if you're so unhappy being fat?
i really hate this. i really hate when people say shit like this. but im going to pretend this was from a place of honest curiosity and not from one of exasperation & annoyance.
there are a few reasons why this wouldn’t help me.
i have body dysmorphic disorder. this means that what i see in the mirror isn’t what is actuality. i don’t know if it’s me literally hallucinating or if it’s just perception or what??? but my dysmorphia is literally so severe that i had lost 60+ lbs in 5 months and i did not notice that i had lost it. that’s three dress sizes. three dress sizes in 5 months & i had literally no idea that i had lost a pound -- in fact, i often thought i was gaining weight.
why is it so hard to respect fat bodies? much of my hatred for myself is based on the reaction of others. this means that if people hadn’t treated me like shit for being fat, maybe i wouldn’t hate myself so much. why should every fat person have to lose weight in order to be treated like human beings?? why can’t i be sad that people treat me like garbage & have the solution be that people stop treating me like garbage????
losing weight didn’t help me. see number one, in which i had dropped 60 lbs but didn’t feel at all happy about it because i had no idea it was actually happening. people would tell me that i “looked so much better” or say “holy shit you got so skinny” & i would go home & cry because i thought they were making fun of me. it didn’t make me happy. it didn’t make me feel better at all.
i don’t hate fat, i just hate myself. i think this one is important to mention. i literally do not get disgusted by any one elses’ bodies. i have been conditioned since i was 4 years old by everyone around me to hate myself. at school, at home, on tv, in books, in movies; everywhere taught me that i was not good enough and that everyone else was worthy. i could look at someone 500lbs more than myself and i’d still have the immediate reaction be to look at my feet because “i am so ugly i don’t deserve to make eye-contact with this person”. and you might think that’s an exaggeration but that’s my actual thought process.
i will only stop hating my body when i no longer have one. period. that’s it.
and those are just my own personal reasons. there are tons of other reasons not to say this to other people discussing fatshaming because half of the time the person may not hate their body, but the way that their body is treated. why should they have to change something they like to avoid humiliation???
this is important. don’t say this shit to people.