As a certified Hater (tm) one of the things I find irksome are exchanges like this:
Person A: I tried The Thing but it didn't really work for me, does it get better as it goes?
Person B: Actually it's really good from the very beginning, some of the best Thing ever.
This? Not helpful. I get the impulse to defend a thing you love immediately, but invalidating the opinion of Person A isn't going to convince them they're wrong and they should just trust you and continue. Be honest!! "Yeah, the acting gets better as the characters get into their roles." "Yeah, it's confusing at the jump but it all comes together in a satisfying way." "No the sound quality doesn't actually improve over time, sorry, but once the plot picks up you'll notice it less."
Or even, "the rest of the Thing is pretty much exactly like this, so if it really didn't work for you, maybe it's not a good fit. Maybe try Thang instead."
If you're trying to get someone to give your favorite thing a chance, "actually your opinion is wrong" right out of the gate isn't helping. Put that little "your feelings are valid" treat in your open palm and approach earnestly. It works so much better.
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