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[tj]

Does being constantly subjected to unreasonable people / feedback make it substantially more difficult to listen to "valid" feedback?

I posted this as an assertion on Twitter, and I suspect that it is true… In fact, at the moment it seems so obvious that it must be true that I have trouble imagining that it might not be true.

But I do wonder… is it really true, or is it just convenient for us to be able to deflect criticism by mentally "lumping" it in with the unreasonable people?

Are we able to filter out The Cranks -- those people who complain so often about so much that we don't even expect that anything will make them happy?

If so, then it would seem like "reasonable" (or, at least, "less unreasonable") criticism would then be easier to spot, the same way it's easier to spot the difference between a child politely asking for something for something that they really, really want (even if it's not something they "need") and another child throwing a tantrum?

Something I have noticed a lot lately is that people who are bombarded with a lot of nonsense/unreasonable feedback seem to have a really difficult time hearing the difference when someone is at least trying to make a point that isn't so unreasonable.

[Note: the instances that I'm talking about are not Tumblr-related, so don't waste time trying to figure out if this is about you.]

[[Even the ones of you who think that I only said that to make you think I'm not talking about you.]]

The next question is this: given that each of us probably have some amount of Cranks in our personal and/or professional lives, how well do we do discerning the difference between then?

And by "we/our" I mean "me/my". But maybe that's a question that applies to you too.

[Although the point of this wasn't to get you to think about this, it's an exercise of me thinking about this.]

Dr. Wife? Daniel? (or anyone else?) — Are you aware of any studies out there on the topic of how people deal with feedback when so much of it needs to be "filtered" (or, perhaps more importantly, how we get better at it?)?

[tj]

chronically-awesome replied to your post: [Photo not included]

Apparently your rump looks cozy.

More like my ass looks like a bean-bag chair, but thanks for trying.

digthecat replied to your post: [Photo not included]

Sometimes dogs dig because it’s a little cooler in a hole… What I’m saying is: she thinks you have a hot ass.

a hole? Is that what you just called me?

effyoufyi replied to your post: [Photo not included]

I promise never to post another mind-map if you post a photo. A-hummina.

Ok… here you go…  (You do realize you merely said "if you post a picture" right? I'm kidding… I like your mind maps.)

[tj]

Did you get OAuth working?! What did you use?! (My Cloud thing stopped working at the same time and for the same reasons and I'm sooooooooooooo lazy but also legitimately busy now.)

Thank you for that *question*. It's nice to see that *some people* can treat my ask box as $DEITY intended.In answer to your question, I used python, curl, curlicue, and zsh.Not to mention a huge piece of the puzzle which was solved by [dig-the-cat](http://dig-the-cat.com).I wrote up *allllll* the nerdy goodness here:and even put the 'code' up on Github here:

[tj]

Do you have any opinions about network-attached storage? Is it too painfully slow to be worth it?

"Do I have any opinions about…" *Hi, I'm TJ, have we met?*Network Attached Storage depends on what you're going to use it for and how it is going to be connected.For example: If you have a 700 GB iPhoto library but your computer only has a 250 GB hard drive, you *could* try to use that over the network, but I bet it would be awful.OTOH, if you had 700 GB worth of music, and wanted to listen to it over the network, that would probably work just fine. The same is *probably* true about video too. If you're mostly going to "reading" from the Network Attached Storage, it can work acceptably well.If, on the other hand, you are trying to do something *interactive* over Network Attached Storage, it's probably going to be awful.So it really depends on your use-case. What sort of files are you expecting to be using over the NAS?I tried using NAS for Time Machine, and just could not stand how slow it was, even on an "802.11n/5 Ghz only" network. (And if you're going to use a NAS for *anything*, I would recommend setting your network up like that, if at all possible.)For my home setup, I have an iMac with a 500 GB drive and a metric fuck ton of attached storage, including video. When we want to watch something (usually DVDs which have been ripped and stored on the iMac) on the TV which is connected to my old MacBook, I will Screen Share to the MacBook and FTP the files from the iMac to the MacBook. Then as we watch things on the MacBook, I delete them. (Because they are only copies of what is on the iMac.) Generally I copy over the first episode, and then we start watching it and I transfer the rest in the background while we're waiting.That gives me all of my big media files in one central location (the iMac) but allows me to access those files from anywhere in the house. Using this method plus a Dropbox Pro account means that neither old MacBook nor my MacBook Air have any "unique" files on them. They are basically installations of OS X plus Dropbox caches, so if one of them died or was lost/stolen, I wouldn't lose any files. (At least theoretically.)