Elfcember Headcanon of the day:
A vital part of choosing an elf clan leader is based on the candidates’ attentiveness to others (because as a clan leader, it is only expected that your elves will come to you with their issues and ask you for help). Even in clan Iorwerth, where many elves may seem to be a stoic unfeeling or snobbish on the outside, the leader must have empathy for their people and a desire to help them.
Bonus related headcanon: When the World Guardian arrives at Prif for the first time after the events of Sliske’s Endgame (in which they were directly prevented from telling Harold and Icthlalrin that they need help), the elders (leaders) immediately notice the change and after asking the World Guardian for their health (and again, probably being told that everything’s “fine”), they start piecing the WG’s condition together. When they’ve deducted enough, they sat down with the wg and started a much-needed therapy session with them.