Cribsheet: A Data-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, from Birth to Preschool by Emily Oster
One of the major challenges facing new parents is the sheer over-abundance of advice out there -- which has admittedly always been somewhat of an issue, but is exacerbated by the explosion of digital resources over the past several decades. For almost any potential decision about how best to raise your child, apparent experts and passionate advocates on every side are just a few keystrokes away, and it's a real challenge to sort out conflicting recommendations, especially in the sleep-deprived haze of life with an infant.
The strength of this 2019 book from economist Emily Oster, then, is that it's not just another set of tips that might contradict someone else's, but rather an attempt to impose a science-based framework on the overall subject matter. Assessing the existing data, the author illuminates parenting topics where there's clear evidence for one strategy over another (e.g. "cry it out" methods of sleep training are effective and show no short-term or long-term harm), where no quality research on the question exists (e.g. the effects of screentime are still largely unknown, despite what anyone tells you), or where it's largely a matter of individual family choice (e.g. the potential medical benefits and risks of newborn male circumcision are both vanishingly small).
Alongside these conclusions, Oster guides her readers on Bayesian priors, opportunity cost, risk comparison, and other economic tools for critical thinking so that we can evaluate further inflection points ourselves. She also helpfully provides a bullet-point summary at the end of every chapter, either for parents who don't have time to read the extended reasoning or for those who already have but want to quickly review later on. I feel like I'll be in that latter category myself, so although I listened to this title as a digital audiobook from my library, I'm glad to have been gifted a physical copy I can keep around as a reference. (Thanks, Aunt Doreen!)
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