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Kasal ni Hazel part 2

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Kasal ni Hazel part 1

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[udany]

Endless love... 'till I get bored

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I get a bit uneasy about how people have come to a state where they use words that should be meaningful in a casual manner. Today you can meet someone (on facebook, without having ever met that person IRL) and two days later you're already exchanging messages like "I want to be forever with you", "i love you, know that?"...

Sorry, maybe I'm the one who's wrong, but i don't believe that you can fall in love with someone in two days over the internet (safe in a case such as spending 40 of the 48 hours in a video-call, in which case I admit you'd probably got to know that person minimally well).

I myself can't say things like "I love you" or "forever" unless I really mean it and feel it in my heart, and, honestly, I could count the people I could say this to using a single hand (if you count in binary). I know people who can swear eternal love know it wont last longer than a month... I'm not one of them.

But it gets even worse when beyond declaring their "feelings" the other part demands you do the same: "Tell me, do you love me?". I'm sincerely clueless about what to do in these scenarios, in general the honest answer would be: "No, I don't love you, I found you an interesting person and decided it was worth getting to know you and see what happens!".

I'll quote here the widespread phrase: "Love is like a fart. If you have to force it, it is probably shit". Despite the unfitting language in comparison to the text, I couldn't find a better fitting quote to explain it.

Let it be clear though that i'm not saying one can't fall in love over the internet, it's just that, imo, to fall in love you need to know a minimal amount about the person, and, over the internet, this takes quite some more time.

What I really think is there are too many people mistaking being horny due to shirtless profile pics for love, just sayin'. Xoxo, UDany 

[udany]

Way away (English)

Amongst it's many uses, the internet has the curious capacity of "shortening distances" and allowing us to discover things that by various reasons, such as being too far away or belonging to times long gone, we would wouldn't have been able to.

Except there is a subset of those things that is often problematic, and it's contained within the subset of "far away things". Let's say you see a beautiful location on a picture: Awesome, you probably wouldn't have seen that in life hadn't it been for the internet. Afterwards, you may keep a wish of visiting that place someday, but most likely you won't loose your sleep on that.

Unfortunately, when it comes to people the same doesn't apply. O do you do when you meet someone, kilometers away from you, and finds in him/her your soulmate? People are complex, a picture, a video, a text, they're all but fragments of a much broader picture that's impossible to grasp by any means other than personally.

And let's say it wasn't so, it's among the most basic human longings to have those you like close by. That's the nature of online relationships.

It's like someone took you to a vast array of meals, you can smell them, see them, but ones you pick one an try to taste it the person says: No, no... Not here. It's like a shareware version of relationships (full features only available IRL).

We're the first generation that has to deal with this in such a present manner in our lives, we have no one to ask for advice, we're all on the same boat and those who know a bit more are those who ventured into uncharted waters and came back to tell the story.

The only guideline I have nowadays is to keep a minimal safe-net, just in case, but mostly: Avoiding being afraid of experimenting, and thus I'll conclude with the last verses of "The road not taken":

Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.

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Walking a different pace

More often than not, men and women live their relationships at a different pace; this naturally causes friction and, in some cases, to a slow and painful divergence that leads to separation.

Some carry the world on their shoulders. Some paint a pink world with themselves in it. Most are somewhere in between. More often than not, loneliness keeps them all thinking.

"Once more... Not sure... With her eyes almost closed, She recalls a few words to say. No one around... a diary to confide to, After the long lonely day. Wanted more... What for? No more cold feet nights, (Or an) empty bed as the day breaks She could take all the pain, All the heartaches. Ignored. Now, unlike ever before... (She) had hoped for nothing... worse or better. She didn't know the taste of bitter."