i dont usually ever post about Current Tumblr Drama but like. at this point for real if you support that forcefem user or her circle just unfollow and block me. i am tired of being ~*nuanced*~ about it
venting under the cut
i am legitimately straight up mad about this situation to be fucking honest.
i have been, for the greater half of this year, been in this mental gutter about tumblr's bizarre shift towards radical kink inclusivity including all forms of rape.
i have been seeing friends reblog stuff that even just a year ago would scream "THIS IS A DOGWHISTLE FOR JORKING IT TO LITTLE GIRLS", i have entirely cut contact with mutuals who have sunk down into embracing the anything goes mentality. i have had a now ex-friend i contacted about this suggest i'm only uncomfortable because of "moral ocd" when if i have moral ocd about this topic at all then it's ACTUALLY the reason i tried to talk things out and shove down my misgivings on the matter instead of just ghosting and blocking for my mental health.
my sex repulsion had been slowly going away over the years, something i had been extremely happy about, but it's fucking Come Back because now i'm on this hypervigilant fucking paranoia that any sex or kink positivity is just trying to trojan horse in Abuse But Sexy. i have felt. like i am going fucking insane.
i have seen some of my own fucking mutuals go to bat for popular users getting ousted, buying into the idea that every time a popular trans woman user is called out no matter what, it's a smear campaign. and I Get It! pedojacketing IS a real problem! there ARE lots of genuine fucking smear campaigns happening to transfem users all the time! BUT ALSO SOME OF THESE USERS YOU REALLY SHOULD NOT BE GOING TO FUCKING BAT FOR. OH MY GOD.
the very first time forcefem got banned i was actually like really freaked out to see people defending her because like. did any of you guys actually See the posts in the og callout. "Oh she's just playing pretend it's just kinks" I DONT CARE IF SHES NEVER PERSONALLY DONE ANYTHING SHE WAS ACTIVELY ENGAGING IN ANON ASKS ABOUT ABUSING FAMILY. YOU DO NOT KNOW WHO SENT AN ANON ASK. YOU DO NOT KNOW IF AN ANON IS "JUST PRETENDING." THIS USER WAS ALWAYS, AT THE BARE MINIMUM, VIOLENTLY CARELESS AND IRRESPONSIBLE WITH HER MASSIVE PLATFORM AND NO ONE SHOULD BE SURPRISED THIS IS WHERE THINGS LEAD.
BUT I KEPT MY FUCKING MOUTH SHUT BECAUSE ANYTHING I SAY WOULD HAVE BEEN MISCONSTRUED AS TRANSMISOGYNY JUST BECAUSE SHES TRANSFEM AND IM TME. EVEN THOUGH. HER BEING TRANSFEM HAS FUCKING NOTHING TO DO WITH RAPE FETISHISM NO MATTER HOW MUCH THIS CIRCLE FUCKING WANTS TO CONVINCE YOU OTHERWISE. WHY ARE WE DOING THE FUCKING ALT-RIGHT'S JOB FOR THEM. (AND LIKE 100% THESE USERS ARE ONLY GETTING THIS AMOUNT OF DEFENSE BECAUSE THEY'RE SUPER POPULAR, I DONT SEE ANYONE GOING TO BAT FOR THE TRANSFEMS WHO SPOKE OUT AGAINST THIS TREND AND GOT HARASSED FOR IT???) IF WE CANT BAN A POPULAR USER FOR VERY PUBLICLY AND SHAMELESSLY SPREADING DANGEROUS IDEALS THAT WILL GET PEOPLE (ESPECIALLY YOUNG TRANS GIRLS??) HURT THEN WHAT CAN WE DO HUH.
i'm like. god i am so fucking tired man because i have been continuously playing nice and doubting myself over and over and over, desperately trying to make peace between my own sense of right and wrong and the shit people i usually trust have been senselessly promoting.
and now here i am finding out i was right all along. i was fucking right and was mentally crushing my brain because i thought i was the crazy one.
i am so fucking done with this shit man.











