Do It When No One Is Watching
This conversation that dear H started this week is written about a lot and is widely preached but scantily followed. I embark on writing this topic not knowing what I can write that hasn’t been written, said or lectured before. Do you read a negative connotation in my words? It is because that is how most of us react to a lesson in Ethics, with a stifled yawn, although the fact that we as a society feel the need to be taught Ethics tells us that ethics and integrity are just as uncommon as common sense.
A frequent suggestion was given when asked how to judge if a decision made is right or not is to ask oneself if their choice would be different if they knew that their loved ones are watching them. The fact is on a day to day basis we pay attention neither to the myriad decisions we make nor to the motivations that drive our inner self to make those decisions because most of them are driven by nature, and well, let us be honest here, there is just no time to think over every decision made. For the most part, these decisions do not harm anyone, but there are those times when something we said or did bothers us, makes us queasy, annoys us like a fly that hovers just near enough to drive you up the wall. That nagging feeling is the guilt, and it could be a minor decision or a major or a first of its kind, but we feel that when we know, we stepped off the rail.
So, we do not need a lesson in ethics, do we? It seems to me like we have a built-in moral compass that guides us in the right direction. The feeling of guilt we are talking about is not driven by someone else watching us but us watching ourselves. The trouble is that not all of us are introspective and hence we do not feel the shame creeping upon us until we see another pair of eyes noticing our actions. Thus it seems to me that this built-in moral compass is influenced by quite a few parameters like enforcement of Law and Order, Demographic history, culture and norms, the company we keep etc.,
I will give you an example closer to my roots. I was 18 when I secured my driving licence. My driving test was on a two-wheeler 150cc scooter, but the licence I received was for a four-wheeler heavy vehicle and all because I knew someone who knew someone and so on. After the fact, I never went beyond driving a two-wheeler because roads scare me but someone else could easily have done so, and they do, and if you’ve driven on Indian roads, you know what I am talking about. Now, let’s think of the last time you secured a driving licence out here in North America because you knew someone? Why do you think that is?
Bribery is rampant in India, and everybody from the street hawker to the CEO is corrupt, with few exceptions, and we are not talking about that minority here. At times the corruption is banal like a few currency notes to the Peon in an office gets you information of what time is best to visit an officer. No one gives a second thought to this action. It is regular, mundane, as frequent as urinating on the walls in public. Then there are those times when an entire housing complex is planned by Government in prime real estate area at, well, Government rates; millions of families invest their retirement money into this and are scammed because the development doesn’t go beyond the foundation stone. These people lose their life’s savings and no one is held responsible. They scramble to find answers but there is no one to answer their questions. Is the Law intervening? Not that I see. There is no fear of consequence, and hence the ethics of the individual is just as the crow flies. This example of the East is not to say that corruption doesn’t exist in the West. It does and at Enron magnitude but there is an associated fear of consequence and hence quite ingeniously masked.
Corruption is an obvious example of ethics. Now, if we think about the more subtle form of ethics, we step into the unknown. Recently with the Trump administration in play and the melee over banning Ivanka Trump’s products, I was suddenly aware of her existence. Now, I never paid attention to her style before but lately every time I pick a dress off the rack, it ends up being Ivanka, and the price is decent while the type is flattering. The prosaicness of the matter allows me to grab the dress and move without a second thought to what I contributed towards by doing that. Honestly, I do not know, but the point is that at the grassroots most of us do things without knowing what we are contributing to. It is legal, and so we do not give a thought to it. Most of us have bigger things to worry about like getting dinner ready and prepping the presentation for the meeting the next day. There are however those of us who are aware of what they are contributing to and the burden of the decision making knowing something is legal and will lead to a good payday but is not the right thing to do, is substantial.
I remember this dialogue from a movie I was watching the other day where a princess standing in the shade of an umbrella was talking to a spiteful worker farming in the hot sun asking her why she was saying hateful words about her. The farmer looks at her and says, “It is effortless to make promises with a full stomach and a shade over your head. Sleep on an empty stomach with a hungry baby and sweat under the sun working till your hands bleed and then promise as you mean it, and I’ll believe you.” It is something to think about. Integrity and ethics is not a characteristic for a regular day; everyone can be ethical when all parameters are controlled. Integrity comes into play when the parameters are altered when the reality changes when desire is replaced with necessity.
Read the other part of this Duolog(ue).
Ethics and Money have a complicated relationship. One is almost always in contention with the other. You follow one, and the other seems to abandon you; maybe not entirely but the estrangement is real.