#ex-grayfriend

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y’all it certainly is something to realize that your ex was abusive to you (and their other past partners)

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ummmm wtf i guess totally ignoring and avoiding your manipulative ex isn’t a clear enough way to say that you don’t want to be friends with them

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ahahahaha i have english class with my crush tomorrow and its gonna be both great and awful, great because I really like being around them and awful because I’m falling so hard for them

also also we’ve been texting a ton lately which is awesome and we were talking about robotics since their friend on another robotics team was asking questions about our robotics team and so i was like ‘you’re probably gonna hear a lot about robotics if you’re around me lol’ and they were like ‘that’s cool i like learning new things!’ and aaaaai really like them and that made me really happy

They’re such an awesome person and like the only things holding me back from asking them out is my ex (which is kinda several things) and like I don’t want to risk losing them as a friend

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Something interesting happened today

so ok, my ex is a theater kid and like their friend group is the theater kids the thing is I’m friends with at least half of the theater kids including one in my grade (who i’ve been getting closer with since we broke up lol)

anyway there was a QSU meeting today and the plan for it was to eat food make a ginger bread house and watch a gay holiday movie, aka our holigays celebration

so I show up a bit late and I see that the only people I’m friends with who are the theater kids and they’re all gather at one table which includes my ex, at this point I’m debating just grabbing some snacks and leaving since I’ve seen this movie before but then the one in my grade (she/they) walks up to make and says I should stay and hang out I tell her I will if they move over to another table with me so i don’t have to sit with my ex (the know a decent amount of the shit that my ex did to me) she agrees to that so we sit down at another table and start talking (about heartstopper I think)

After some time like 2 more of theater kids end up joining us from the other table and then a bit later a few more and after a bit my ex ends up being the only one at that original table, so the theater kids end up spending basically the whole time with me and the one I asked to sit with me while my ex sits alone

i feel very slightly bad about the fact that they were alone (I guess their boyfriend had something else?) but also not really since I didn’t ask all of the theater kids to come over, just the one, and I also feel like a sick since of pride that my ex’s friends chose me over them

also there's a decent chance I’m getting a crush on this theater kid (the one i’m getting closer with) but like it is a bad idea because a) I just don’t have time to date someone, b) it hasn’t been that long since I broke up with my ex, c) this person was literally asked out by my ex, d) its really not a good idea to date someone who’s good friends with your ex that you aren’t on good terms with (I should know I was the one stuck in the middle of my ex and my friend last time) so uh yeah they’re really nice and cute but also entirely a bad idea

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interesting conversation with my english teacher today,,,,,

so uh things went really bad when i was bio lab partners w/ my ex last semester (dw i'll get to the english part soon) and knowing that my partner is in my english class and we have a major assessment coming up that is gonna be in groups i told my partner what went down w/ my ex and explained to them that i just can't be in a group w/ them for this project

then this morning i got a chance to talk to my english teacher before class when my partner kinda pushed me towards her lol and so i asked my english teacher if she had made the groups yet and she said no

so (with my partner standing a couple feet away) I asked my teacher if she could not put us together and i think i kinda shocked her (she knows that we're dating and makes fun of us sometimes for it) because she paused for a second and then said that wasn't what she expected and asked why so i told her that i did a group project with my ex and it went badly and her response to that was "at least you're self aware",,,,,,,,,,,

i just damn did not expect that but uh i didn't feel like explaining more but i'm trying to protect myself a lot more than my partner here

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ramblely stuff related to my partner to follow :D

so so so they're just so amazing and it seems like every day they do something new to prove how incredible they are and i'm still kinda in shock that they thought I wouldn't want to go out with them

since i told them everything about my ex we've talked about it a bit more and she keeps repeating how shitty everything they did to me was and has been so sweet about it all like uh today in english i was like 'yeah its really essay to manipulate someone's emotions' and they gave me little hug (because they knew i was referencing my ex but we couldn't have an actual conversation because class)

also my friends are way too aware that the way to get me to do something is to use my girlfriend, like i was debating if i should go to soccer or robotics tomorrow and i was discussing it with my robotics friends but then was like 'you know what imma ask my partner because they're unbiased' and then robotics people started suggesting bribing my partner with candy to get them to tell me to go to robotics (I ended up deciding on robotics without any bribery)

and then today after school i was trying to steal back on friend's water bottle from another friend and the friend i was trying to steal it from pointed behind me and was like 'is that your girlfriend' and the only reason i didn't fall for it was because i knew my partner had already left

and then like 30min later another friend was messing w/ my hair and was annoyed it wouldn't stay messed up and so now they want to sneak up on me and hairspray my hair in place, but like messed up, and i told them it's hard to sneak up on me and their solution was to have my partner (who they're close friends w/) distract me while they did it and- yeah that would probably work

also also also they literally made me soooo happy today, so my first soccer game is this weekend and it's like an hour away and it's supposed to be rainy but like my partner has been asking about my soccer schedule for a while and wants to come to some of my games and is free this weekend and so we were texting about it this evening and i was telling them how the really don't have to come but they are very insistent that they'll be there even if it's raining

some of this probably comes from me having to do a ton of convincing to get my ex to come to 2 games in the year + that we dated and so like my bar is extremely low but like it made me so so so happy to find out that they really wanna see me play

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I've very proud of this line I used on my partner, firstly for context, my ex is an asshole and my partner knows this, so my partner was like "well I'm glad i'm above the bar [as a partner]" and my response was

"My ex buried the bar but you're in the sky"

I made them blush so hard with that :D

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hhhhhhhhh I am so fucking pissed with my ex, they've hurt one too many of my friends

kinda wanna list out how many people they've hurt,,,

ok so

we have my best friend since 5th grade (1) - they dated for like 9months in middle school and had an awful break up

then someone they went out with for 1 day over the summer - the person backed out of the relationship after my ex started to dump shit on them

then we have the person they started dating a few days before me - a lot of shit went down with this person's parents not being ok with my ex being polyam and my ex didn't respond the best to that

then we have me :) - ahahahaha there's so much there i talked about it in a bunch of other posts, we're not going there today

then we have the person both me and my ex dated - this maybe was one of the less toxic ones? idk if much went down there but my ex def said a least a bit of aphobic stuff and that relationship didn't last long so...

alright we also have the person my ex asked out 3 times - i think that about sums it up but uh yeah my ex really can't take no for an answer

uh next we have the person who's ex my ex is currently dating - this person is pissed with my ex since they were friends but then my ex just asked out their ex and now our ex's have been dating for over a year

we also have the person my ex fucked - uh idk much about this relationship but they called it friends with benefits and it didn't last very long

next up is my partner - my ex asked them out twice and pulled the 'i still like you tho' card after finding out my partner liked me, hopefully us dating fucks with my ex

oh yeah we also have on of my close friends - basically my ex and them got close (just as friends) and my ex said some weird shit to my friend and my friend got in trouble with their parents for some of it

alright last example I can think of tonight is another one of my friends - so this person is in my ex's friend group and i'm messaging with them rn about some shitty patronizing aphobic messages my ex sent them and its just all so fucked up and so similar to shit my ex did to me but i brushed off

uh ok wow, that was actually 10 people... god i'm so fucking done with my ex