keep in mind, its been a little over a month since i redid my dreadlocks. its best to only crochet once a month, if you decide to take up that aesthetic maintenance. i backcombed & crocheted them when i redid them. also keep in mind, there is a correct technique and an incorrect technique to crocheting dreads. crocheting dreads is basically a one tooth comb that sucks in the frizz and loops.
and i haven't crocheted them since i redid them. i've been sick and just letting them shrink & adjust themselves. and they've progressed so much in such a short amount of time! i don't even consider it a new set of dreadlocks because my hair just acted like it was five months old and started shrinking :3 i'm really proud of my patience that i've learned from them.
and yesterday at work made me feel even closer to my dreadlocks. this new girl at work, who is from a very small town in the south (which is why i am leaning towards why she doesn't know how to act around a lot of different kinds of people) said to me "so you're trying to have dreadlocks?" and i could feel it. this was the moment that everyone eventually has.
my dreads are barely shoulder length. which is why i don't post a lot of photos of them, i am not comfortable with myself with short hair. but when i'm in public i turn that off in my brain, its a waste of energy to care about it on a daily basis.
i turned and looked her dead in the eye and said "i'm not trying to have dreadlocks, they are dreadlocks. they are not mature, but they're there." and i explained a little more about how dreadlocks work. dreaducation is very important!
and i highly doubt she even understood what i was talking about, but i could be wrong, i could have finally gotten through to someone! and then she said to me "but your hair will rot and you'll have to shave it off" first off, why does my hair concern you. i am 90 hours away from being a licensed cosmetologist. i was a part of one of the best programs that is offered in the states, unfortunately i didn't go to a school with teachers who knew how to act like teachers and not like students.
i looked at her and said "i went to cosmetology school." i laughed as if to not make a big deal out of it and said "i would never do something that would endanger my hair and cause it to rot. you can brush dreadlocks out. some people have different curl patterns. but most you can brush out no matter what."
she asked what method i used in the best way she knew how to talk about it.
she said she had a friend that had dreadlocks.
i really appreciate the effort she made with me. some people just don't know how to ask questions. but i understood where she was coming from, she was curious and wanted to know more about the proper way to handle dreadlocks but didn't know how to go about bringing it up without being offensive.
i'm glad that mentally i'm in a place where i did not take any of this personally.
but i am still a little frustrated with the majority of the population being brainwashed into thinking hair has to be taken care of with commercial, big name products. and i'm more frustrated with the majority of the population for being led to believe that tangles are wrong!
