#failosophy

[theimpalatales]

"We live in a culture that celebrates impossible perfection. We are repeatedly fed the lie that aspiration and ambition can only ever be grounded in our lust for unobtainable things... when, in fact, we can motivate ourselves in a different way, by seeking to find contentment in the expression of our truest selves as we already are."

Failosophy

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my February's book: Failosophy by Elizabeth Day

ngomongin soal kegagalan, di buku ini saya belajar bahwa kegagalan bisa dilihat dengan perspektif yang baru. gagal tuh gapapa. semua orang pernah gagal, and it's normal. kita gak boleh menertawakan, menganggap remeh atau menganggap sepele kegagalan orang lain. boleh jadi kegagalan orang lain itu no big deal buat kita tapi buat orang lain it's a big deal. it's a painful experience. sebaliknya, boleh jadi kegagalan yang kita alami itu big deal, tapi nyatanya gak berlaku di orang lain. kenapa? karena kita dalam kapasitas dan kondisi yang beda-beda. kita terbentuk dari starting point dan pengalaman yang berbeda. jadi wajar kalau reaksi kita terhadap berbagai macam jenis kegagalan juga akan berbeda. so don't look down on others.

di buku ini saya juga belajar gimana seharusnya kita memaknai sebuah kegagalan. how to embracing failure melalui The Seven Failure Principle. kita akan diajak memaknai bahwa banyak banget banget hal di luar kontrol kita. in the end of the day, kita emang harus berdamai dengan itu semua. menerima.

sering banget kegagalan yang menjatuhkan atau traumatic datang dari kejadian yang unpredictable. sering juga kita malu dengan kegagalan yang kita alami saking pahit dan menyakitkannya sampai gamau dibahas-bahas lagi. padahal salah satu cara embracing kegagalan sekaligus menghilangkan rasa malu terhadap kegagalan tersebut adalah dengan talk about it. ceritakanlah bagian yang 'patah' itu. setiap diri kita pasti butuh waktu, entah singkat atau panjang, semua kegagalan pasti butuh waktu untuk diproses. cuz if you feel pain, that pain is a fact. and we don't have to feel better immediately.

terakhir, ada salah satu kalimat favorit saya dari buku ini: ".....failure does not have to be alienating. in truth, it is the opposite: it connects us all. it makes us human." kita lebih sering terhubung dengan satu sama lain karna sama-sama pernah mengalami kegagalan bukan sama-sama pernah mengalami kesuksesan. meski dalam bentuk dan timing yang beda-beda, persamaan dalam kegagalan itulah yang membuat kita saling erat tersambung dan utuh sebagai manusia.

[madamewriterofwrongs]

Accept failure as a fact. It's your reaction that you can control

You are not your worst thoughts

Failure is data acquisition

There is no such thing as a future you

Being open about your vulnerabilities is the ultimate act of strength

[theimpalatales]

“Negative feelings will sometimes give us the wrong advice because they are automatic reflexes, hardwired in us from past experiences that might no longer be relevant to our current situation.”

Elizabeth Day, Failosophy

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Reading Review 2023

Historically, there's been much wrong with the self-help genre. These books often claim to aid the reader in some area of their life but, in reality, are just an excuse for the writer to spout their own experiences. There's nothing wrong with sharing your own experiences, but doing so in the context of holding the secret to life is disingenuous and can be problematic. (In fact, I think most self-help books would become infinitely more interesting if the writer framed the tools and techniques as things that specifically helped them overcome their personal flaws or situations, rather than trying to sell them to every reader as something that every single person must know and implement in their lives.)

With all of that said, this book somehow appealed to me. Perhaps it was the pretty pink cover with its appealing, shiny foil lettering. Or maybe it was the subject matter that called to me – a perfectionist learning to embrace failure as a positive. Whatever it was, I'm so glad I picked up this self-help book.

Failosophy is a short, genuinely insightful book on failure of all shapes and sizes. Day splits the book up into seven digestible lessons and vulnerably shares with the reader how each one has proven challenging and helpful in her personal life. The book's main philosophy is to embrace failure as an opportunity for growth and for connection; after all, to err is human. Moreover, the book largely focuses on the teachings and experiences of others, thus offering a wide scope of stories for the reader to learn from and connect with.

2023 was a tough year for me and dipping into this accessible short read was a needed, uplifting experience.

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Read the reviews || 8/14

[theimpalatales]

"There's something very freeing about being willing to try something that doesn't work."

Malcolm Gladwell quoted in Failosophy

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I've been going through a tough time lately and dipping into this accessible short read has been uplifting. Also, ya know, popcorn.

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[theimpalatales]

“The key to meditation, [Haemin Sunim said], is ‘to see yourself objectively in a non-judgemental way: that’s the meditation.’”

Elizabeth Day, Failosophy