hi, separate anon here! i’ve been considering coming out as a system, but i’m worried about being fake claimed. do you have any tips?
OMG???? I don't think I've ever gotten an ask like this before??? I'm honored! Handling fakeclaiming online and offline may be very different, so keep in mind that I'll mainly be talking about online fakeclaiming!
Who fakeclaims?
Anti Endos, Sysmeds, and anyone associated with r/systemcringe are all groups who are based around/on fakeclaiming. Anti Willogenic/Tulpa stances as well.
Prevention
It's important to note that it is NOT your fault if you get fakeclaimed. You shouldn't make yourself palatable for ANYONE. If you follow this advice and you still get fakeclaimed, that is not your fault nor will it ever be your fault. Truth is that you can never truly prevent being fakeclaimed since fakeclaiming is apart of ableism. You will be fakeclaimed because people are ableist, NOT because you're too much x or not y enough.
Block the following tags:
anti endo
future is singlet
endos dni
non traumagenic dni
any variants
Remember to block as you encounter
Id recommend surrounding yourself with people who support you and really curating your own experience would help a lot! Any negativity you may experience gets drowned out easier when you remember people like you.
Dealing with Fakeclaiming
Being comfortable in what being a system means to you helps a lot along with being confident on why you use the labels you do (if you use any). If the building is sturdy, no storm can knock it down completely!
I get fakeclaimed on a pretty much near basis because I don't like sugarcoating how much I love being a plural system. When I'm fronting, it's super easy to brush off because I'm sure of my reasons for why I make the posts I do and why I use labels like endogenic, attengenic, etc!
But also keep in mind your own limits. It's okay if fakeclaiming gets to you or makes you feel unsure. You're not weak or any less of a system for being affected by it. If dealing with Fakeclaiming wasn't tough— and it IS tough— then people wouldn't be worried about subreddit and cringe comps.
Laugh at fakeclaiming when you can. Make a joke out of hate anons because let's be honest, you might get some...interesting ones
Remind yourself that your plurality isn't commentary on others experiences. Sometimes you hate something about being a system someone else loves and that's okay! Sometimes it's vice versa.
Remember, Fakeclaiming is ableism , it's also ultimately denial. Fakeclaiming exsists to shut people up about their experiences, especially if they think it's out of the norm or what is considered "healthy" or "okay". Fakeclaiming with never be righteous
And if it turns out you're not actually a system or don't consider yourself one or you want final fusion, that doesn't mean they're right! The experience was still real and so was your experience as a system.
And when you can't handle it on your own, talk to friends or family or anyone you trust really. Join a system community on Tumblr and post about your worries there if they allow it! It's okay to get bothered or upset
Best of luck, dearest anon, I hope you decide whether or not coming out is right for you🩷🩷🩷 no matter the decision, I'm sure it'll be wonderful 🩷🩷🩷