#traumagenic

[snowlilysystem]

"my headmate is evil!"

>looks into headmate

>scared headmate with fight response

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Friendly reminder that you can talk to your brain like a beloved innocent little kid and it works probably better than you’d expect

“Wow this is pretty rough huh…let’s think of some good things instead! What are some things we’re looking forward to?”

“I have an idea, lets pretend we’re in slow-motion, even our breathing and blinking is slooowwww”

“Quick I need your help it’s really super important! Tell me every single [color/animal/etc] you can possibly think of”

“Hey buddy, do you maybe want your favorite snack? I bet you’re pretty tired huh…how about we have a little nap/go to bed early tonight”

Doesn’t always have to be for handling negative stuff either in fact doing it in neutral-positive situations will help you remember it’s even an option in times of distress. And in general it’s just very healing, promotes self-worth, etc.

(no specific source other than that one of my lifelong special interests has been How To Be Better In Every Way Because Everthing About Me Just Seems Wrong)

[drugsbowsandbandaids]

HUGE WEB DECOR DUMP FOR JIRAIS!

title is very silly ofc anyone is f2u these!! no credit is needed EVERYTHING (yes including dividers) is f2u!! Feel free to tag me if you use these :3 /nf

[bah-pearl-cookie]

By the way, PTSD flashbacks aren't always "suddenly you're in the moment again". They can be of course but emotional flashbacks are a kind of flashback too (remembering the event and suddenly feeling the emotions you felt in the event) just in case someone needed to hear it

[viverelyka]

hyperfixating on this media won't save you but a new headmate- two new headm- five- a bunch of new headmates might

[onyxolotl]

saw this on pinterest and thought it might be something traumagenic systems who struggle with thinking their trauma isn't enough need to see

[collectivewarmth]

one of the most important things about dissociative identity disorder and generally being a system that i wish people would understand is that it truly isn’t as cut and dry as it may seem for member count.

you’ll see people who say they have “six alters” and then immediately assume it’s six fully fleshed out equal individuals with no confusion or fuzziness regarding identity. that’s simply not true in a majority of cases, as i have seen.

most systems still VERY much deal with confusion regarding potential splits, go through dissociative episodes where they’re unsure of who they are, sometimes feel no attachment towards any identities, feel like they might have split and then suddenly that person is gone, unsure if alters they haven’t heard from often have gone dormant, not sure how to react when alters do come out of dormancy, etc.

it’s not a fun feeling and it’s genuinely unfair in certain situations to force systems to list every single alter to you with full certainty, as if it will never change. because it will. for so many different reasons, systems will grow, they will shrink, they will fuse, they will develop. you can’t expect the person with the dissociative disorder and lack of core identity to be able to keep up a perfected list of forever, it’s simply impossible. you may have alters who stick with you, but that doesn’t mean changes won’t happen.

and systems who may be reading this — please don’t feel bad. you are not a hassle, you are not a headache, and you are not an inconvenience for simply coping with something like this. it’s out of your control and the only thing you can do is continue to cope to find ways to help yourself retrain from these reactions. please don’t allow yourself to be harmed by others who don’t understand what you are going through. there are people who will accept and love you for who you are, all of you.

past, present, and future.