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Borrowed sweater for the romantic asks!

borrowed sweater: would you ever get matching clothes/jewelry/etc with your s/o / partners?

Absolutely! My partner and I coordinate our outfits sometimes when we go out on dates, we like to match colors in our outfits even though we have different aesthetics for the most part.

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concept: it's a sunday morning and we get to wake up late. the honey colored light from the sun seeps through the window and across your skin, and i can't help but brush my fingers across your flawless freckled skin. we take our time getting up and go to the farmers market, and we stock up on fresh groceries and buy the freshly baked bread to have with our tea later. i don't want to be anywhere else. you are home to me

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I've seen a lot of people say the all lives matter thing is bull/stupid/whatever and I want to ask a clarifying question. What if the reason someone has that stance is because many vulnerable groups are targeted by police brutality? (Disabled people, sex workers, etc)

I have an answer to this that I think may help you understand why “all lives  matter” is a harmful belief. 

If your home was on fire, firefighters will come and put your house out, because it is the one in danger of burning down. The firefighters will not come and aim their hoses at every single house on the block when your house is the only one on fire. Sure, the rest of the houses are important, as they are someone else’s home, but they aren’t on fire.

In this metaphor, your house on fire represents the consistent danger Black individuals are in because of systematic racism and police brutality. Black individuals are targeted by police consistently. I have seen videos of Black kids bursting into tears or hiding behind whatever they can when they see any sort of law enforcement because they are terrified and have witnessed what can happen to them just because of their skin color. It’s heartbreaking.

Black Lives Matter is a movement that emphasizes the importance of Black Lives and is determined to end systematic racism within our law enforcement. It is not to say that anyone else does not matter. This movement is a fight for equality. But Black Lives are in the most danger right now because of systematic racism and police brutality. Just as your house, as the only one on fire, is in the most danger on your block. Let’s put that fire out.

I hope you can understand now, and if you are still confused and need clarity, my messages are open. 

I am a white transgender queer man, and if I have explained this incorrectly, or if there’s something I should add, please feel free to add on to this post or inbox me. I am continually learning and growing and listening.

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1, 11 and 15?

1. Animated character that was your gay awakening?

does spiderman count?

11. Preferred way to spend a rainy day?

i love spending rainy days drinking tea and rewatching ghibli movies under like 5 blankets

15. What coffee drink would you describe yourself as?

probably a matcha latte

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(I'm really trying to not come across as rude with this) systematic abuse of the disabled/mentally ill/sex worker are still huge issues that don't get mentioned much when it comes to police brutality. The fire metaphor doesn't really make sense because it's more than just the one house on fire. Black people aren't the only ones disproprtionatly impacted by police brutality.

I understand what you’re trying to say and the systematic abuse of those groups of people are equally important to focus on; however as I stated in my previous post, the Black Lives Matter movement is fighting against police brutality towards Black individuals and police brutality, period. 

The Black Lives Matter movement isn’t a declaration of “no one else matters”. It isn’t a declaration that there aren’t others impacted by police brutality.

Again, it emphasizes the importance of Black Lives, which includes individuals who are Black and are disabled/mentally ill/sex workers. 

Also, Google is a great resource and is educational. I would strongly encourage you to do your research on this movement.

I am a white transgender queer man, and if I have explained this incorrectly, or if there’s something I should add, please feel free to add on to this post or inbox me. I am continually learning and growing and listening.

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Oh man, about my crush, he’s super smart, has such a warm, caring personality, but a *great*, dry sense of humor that goes perfectly with my own! He and I write together a lot, and he’s *such* a talented writer, his looks only match, he’s blonde and he’s cute and he *even* has some baby-abs and it’s so 😍😍😍!! We’re even both ace and oh man I’m crushing so hard 💕

that’s adorable, i am so happy that you have each other and that he makes you happy, you deserve the world!

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an appreciation post for my fellow jewish mlm because i don’t see these enough:

you are loved and valid and worth more than the world. whether you’re a convert, orthodox, conservative, or maybe you’re still unsure about what you believe in, you’re all stunning & deserve to find someone who will treat you like a prince. 

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hey beautiful,

i know it’s been quite a while since i’ve been very active on here, summer always keeps me busy with working and traveling.

but after a lot of tears, money, papers, running around & multiple voicemails, i FINALLY have my court date to change my name!!! besides all the paperwork i have to send around after i get the final judgement order, i will legally be ME on august 14th, 2019. it's taken so long to get here and at least 5 different names from 2015-2017, but i will finally be me. i'm proud of it and i love it. it's a name that..just fits. it's me. i'm so happy. 

and to any trans individuals who struggle to find the right name for themselves: trust me, take all the time you need to figure it out. you're not a burden to anyone. it's YOUR name and you have every right to change it however many times you need to before you find the one that feels like a puzzle piece locking in. it's worth it to wait and make sure things fit. i promise you.

i am going to be more active on here from here on out, i will do my best! if you ever need to reach me urgently, please don’t hesitate to send me a message and i can give you my personal tumblr. 

i hope everyone is having a great summer. don’t forget if anyone ever needs anything, i’m always a dm away and here for you. you’re not alone. i love you.