#feeling indecisive

[crybabykiko]

help me pick new theme color

just keep blue

yellow

green

purple

red

for dai’s eyes

Voting ended onFeb 22

[regardstosoulandromance]

where should I hang out and write today

library

coffee shop

emma button 🔪

Voting ended onJul 7, 2025

[kiminoan]

Difficult human things

I've been dating a cute, kind, ND, asexual lesbian for awhile. I wasn't able to invest much time initially because I was intensely overworked and exhausted. After leaving my job and clawing my way out of the exhaustion somewhat, I've discovered the most I can offer her is platonic friendship. She's very accepting of who I am, but to the point where it's ebbed into what I can only describe as benign indifference.

I've also come to realize that I don't seem very relevant to her plans. This is speculation, but I've gotten the strong impression that I'm a cover for her being in love with her heterosexual best friend and also possibly hiding this from her family who hopes she'll marry. Her out loud plans are to seek an alloromantic life partner that can eventually live with her in the same community housing as her and her best friend. I feel like I could be anyone, and that doesn't work for me. I'd rather be single than "you'll do." My inclination is to be direct because, well, I'm autistic! Several friends have advised that I should just let the situation fade out which is a very common Pacific Northwest social behaviour. However, I feel like it's being dishonest in some way, and impeding her from finding someone to fulfill her needs.

What shall I do?

Let it fade out organically

Be direct

I will elaborate on a more complex Plan C

Voting ended onJun 28, 2024

[mcrv]

Help me nominate 3 art pieces to submit for my inprnt application

[coy-sloth]

mixed feelings 

[jami-dodger]

Tumblr, should I go and get beers?

[uncreditedferret]

I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was a famous poet and another fig was a brilliant professor, and another fig was Ee Gee, the amazing editor, and another fig was Europe and Africa and South America, and another fig was Constantin and Socrates and Attila and a pack of other lovers with queer names and offbeat professions, and another fig was an Olympic lady crew champion, and beyond and above these figs were many more figs I couldn't quite make out. I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree, starving to death, just because I couldn't make up my mind which of the figs I would choose. I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground at my feet.

Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

[peace-guac-trees-blog]

From free-tarot-reading.net

How you feel about yourself-

Judgement

You feel this is an end to an era or at least a certain phase of your life - you are taking stock and looking where you want to go from here. This ending is not one for regret but for rejoicing. Soon you will enjoy the rewards for your past efforts. As with any period of endings, many opportunities will present themselves and the choice that you make will have far reaching implications that could change your life dramatically. Any legal issues should be ruled in your favour.

What you want most right now-

Justice

The cards suggest that what you most want at this time is for a fair and right outcome whether it concerns relationships or business affairs. You feel that you are in the right and that any decision or agreement to be made should be in your favour.

Your fears-

Temperance

You are afraid that this period of harmony in your relationship or life in general is not going to last. Perhaps you are afraid a rival is going to cause conflict or already is and threatens to upset the peace and tranquillity you are enjoying. Any quarrels will be short lived so just try and enjoy the moment for what it is. If life is not joyful and tranquil at the moment you may fear that it never will be, take heart and be patient and life will soon have a sense of normality again.

What is going for you-

The Empress

The harvest is here; you are entering an abundant time of happiness and joy. Creative energy is high so if you are considering starting a family, a new job or artistic endeavour this is a favourable time. Relax and enjoy.

What is going against you-

Wheel of Fortune

A run of bad luck here, perhaps already evident or certainly signs that things are not going your way. The responsibility of important decisions weigh heavy with you where there are choices to make. Trust your intuition, and even if you have to make the painful decision to give up something in order to move on, then have the courage to do it. Trust that The Wheel of Fortune constantly turns and whilst it may be against you at the moment it will in time turn and bring you good fortune.

The likely outcome-

The World

Success, fulfillment and conclusion are near at hand - the successful outcome to a venture, satisfaction in a relationship and efforts rewarded. It is a culmination of events and indicates material wealth and greater spiritual awareness. You may choose to buy that dream house or a wonderfully fulfilling relationship is on offer, enjoy!