"That Girl"
The following is a list I compiled of everything I can remember ever telling a man not to do in my life. The list was projected onto me as I performed a self-written monologue on my feelings regarding femininity and feminism, "That Girl."
-B.S.
Don’t talk down to me
Don’t touch me while I’m sleeping
Don’t tell me what to do with my makeup
Don’t tell me how to dress
Don’t keep going when I tell you to stop
Don’t throw a fit when I tell you to stop
Don’t talk about sex like I owe it to you
Don’t compare my body to other women
Don’t make jokes about my eating disorder
Don’t treat me like I’m dumb for having a mental illness
Don’t assume all my emotions are based around my menstrual cycle
Don’t make jokes about my abuse
Don’t ask questions about my abuse unless I tell you I want to talk about it
Don’t joke about raping me
Don’t joke about raping anyone
Don’t act surprised when I don’t laugh at your pedophile jokes
Don’t call me a bitch
Don’t hold me down unless I ask you to
Don’t pull my hair when I’m going down on you
Don’t treat my body like it’s yours
Don’t try to fuck me when I’m sad
Don’t act like that’s not a selfish thing to do
Don’t send nudes to other people
Don’t send me pictures of your dick that I didn’t ask for
Don’t tell me that you know I like it when I tell you that I definitely fucking don’t
Don’t trivialize my emotions
Don’t trivialize my interests and discourage me till I give up
Don’t flirt with other people in front of me
Don’t talk about how hot other girls are because their bodies are different from mine
Don’t assume I’m cheating on you because I spend time with my friends
Don’t interrogate me when I come home
Don’t act like you have a right to my private life
Don’t make me feel guilty for having a life
Don’t make me feel guilty for not having sex with you
Don’t blame your abuse on me not having sex with you
Don’t talk about women like that in front of kids
Don’t explain “calories” and “fat” to your 4 year just because she likes eating bread
Don’t assume I am watching my weight
Don’t order my food for me, especially if you are going to order me a salad
Don’t tell me I am “just being sensitive”
Don’t comment on the appearance of every woman you see
Don’t act like a victim when I call you sexist
Don’t pretend sexism doesn’t exist
Don’t play the victim when I ask you to respect me
Don’t call me a whore
Don’t stick your hands down my pants when your fingernails are that long
Don’t try to get me drunk when I don’t want to
Don’t try to get me higher than I can handle
Don’t take advantage of me when I’m too high to understand it
Don’t treat me like an idiot for not understanding video games
Don’t tell me I’m lying about being interested in typically masculine things
Don’t feminize men as a way of insulting them
Don’t tell me I’m overreacting when I tell you you’re acting sexist
Don’t tell me I look like I whore whenever I wear a dress
Don’t tell a little girl that “only whores wear red nail polish”
Don’t tell a little girl that she’s dressed like a whore
Don’t call random women on the street whores
Don’t ask about my sex life
Don’t tell me how much makeup to wear
Don’t judge me on the makeup I wear, or don’t wear
Don’t tell me I don’t love you just because I won’t send you nudes
Don’t tell me you love me just to get me to send you nudes
Don’t tell me what to do with my pubic hair
Don’t act like my vagina is radioactive waste
Don’t compare my boobs to the boobs in porn
Don’t make fun of my boobs because they aren’t symmetrical
Don’t make fun of my stretch marks
Don’t make fun of my scars
Don’t make fun of my tattoos
Don’t treat me like a sex toy
Don’t tell me I can’t cut my hair
Don’t treat me like a prostitute for having to kiss someone in a play
Don’t slip me the tongue when I have to kiss you in a play
Don’t tell people we’ve hooked up when we haven’t
Don’t tell people we’ve hooked up if I asked you to keep it quiet
Don’t show people pictures I send you
Don’t tell your friends what kind of fuck I am
Don’t try to pressure me into not using condoms
Don’t tell me you’ve put a condom on when you haven’t
Don’t assume I’m easy just because I fuck girls too
Don’t ask me to be your “unicorn”
Don’t call me a bitch for insisting women are people too
Don’t tell me I can never have an abortion
Don’t tell me what to do with my studies
Don’t tell me to start thinking of a backup plan “if this whole theatre thing doesn’t work out”
Don’t tell me I’m going to get pregnant young because of my ethnicity
Don’t judge my family because I was born to young parents
Don’t judge my mother because she raised me on her own
Don’t tell me I have “daddy issues”
Don’t assume I hate men
Don’t assume I’m a lesbian
Don’t tell me how your dick can “cure” my supposed lesbianism
Don’t assume it was “just a phase” because I’m dating a boy
Don’t talk over me
Don’t make me your Manic Pixie Dream Girl
Don’t get pissed when I refuse to be your Manic Pixie Dream Girl