#feminist problems

[writergamermom]

Feminism:

Girls rooting for other girls.

...

And pushing men down stairs and saying “this is my job now!”

-nailed it season 4

[itsnotjustpms]

[postmodernismruinedme]

Today I am torn in between forcing myself to go to work, because it’s International Women’s Day and they’ll need my help with the big shindig to celebrate female survivors of sexual violence, and staying home because this day is a gift from the international labour movement who fought for me to have the right to paid sick days. And I am so very sick.

[writergamermom]

dead girl, Dave’s wife, or “strong female lead”

“When we kill women in our stories, we aren’t just annihilating female gendered bodies. We are annihilating the feminine as a force wherever it resides — in women, in men, of the natural world. Because what we really mean when we say we want strong female leads is: “Give me a man but in the body of a woman I still want to see naked.”It’s difficult for us to imagine femininity itself — empathy, vulnerability, listening — as strong. When I look at the world our stories have helped us envision and then erect, these are the very qualities that have been vanquished in favor of an overwrought masculinity.“

I remember watching commentary by Joss Whedon regarding the Black Widow busting a chair in the first Avengers movie. He was so excited because he could finally show a stunt he wanted to do in Buffy. As he talked I realized how much he was in love with the ‘Strong Female’ who can kick ass and look like well Scar Jo as she is doing it. This is when I started to wonder what kind feminist Joss was when the only version of a strong woman was a woman who fought.

When I was young I loved Buffy. I loved the jokes and the pop culture, Buffy kicking butt and having drama, and the scobbies. It was great. But the point of Buffy was that this pretty girl was actually super strong and battled the forces of evil with her trusty Mr. Pointy. It is a girl doing ‘man things.’

Brit Marling created the OA (a Netflix show that I need to watch) because she got tired of playing the dead girl, Dave’s wife, or the strong female lead. She found that Hollywood’s idea of the strong female lead "...a man but in the body of a woman I still want to see naked”, while completely ignoring “ empathy, vulnerability, listening” as strength. Marling was not finding the roles she wanted so she started writing.

I imagine new structures and mythologies born from the choreography of female bodies, non-gendered bodies, bodies of color, disabled bodies. I imagine excavating my own desires, wants and needs, which I have buried so deeply to meet the desires, wants and needs of men around me that I’m not yet sure how my own desire would power the protagonist of a narrative.

It is not just women who are trying to redefine the stories that are told and what it means to be a hero. I loved Rain Johnson’s Knives Out, mostly because of Marta Cabrera. Ana de Armas said she almost passed on the role because it was listed as a care taker nurse. But Marta was so much more than that. She was empathic, vulnerable, listened and was so much stronger for it. She cared more about creating beautiful patterns instead of beating someone.

Now i will say that I love me Rey and Carol Danners and Okoye. But honestly I loved Rose the most (thanks again Rain Johnson). I do Taekwondo and I love to be strong. But when I think about the superpower I want most in the world, it is the power to speak any language and understand everyone.

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/02/07/opinion/sunday/brit-marling-women-movies.html?utm_source=pocket-newtab

[writergamermom]

I was never a Hole fan in the 90′s. I was like 12 when violet came out and my parents didn’t let me watch MTV. I am the very youngest of Gen X, born outside of Seattle in 1980. I loved grunge, Smashing Pumpkins was my jam. But Hole? all that yelling, screaming? I didn’t get it. I was sad. Disconnected. But I lacked rage. Now I am almost 40 and I get it. That screaming? that Rage? I mean listen to it.

“ When they get what they want, and they never want it again And they get what they want, and they never want it again Go on, take everything, take everything, I want you to “

Fuck. Smart, Loud, women, who fix each other’s crowns, and have something to say, will never, ever, get what they deserve. So just scream.

[bisexualfeministlion]

me trying to be social but meeting idiots

[getofftheroofcletus]

I'm a feminist until there's 7 ladybugs in my apartment. That's where I draw thE LINE

[lizziesxltzmxn-archive]

I'm a hardcore feminist who would never let a man control me but at the same time I want to be held down or pushed against a wall and be throughly fucked (with my consent tho) while hearing "You're mine." And "Who do you belong to?"