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Filipino Cultute is Best for Parenting?

[ellevatoor]

ORIGINALLY POSTED: SEPTEMBER 14, 2021

ON BEING A FILIPINO PARENT

Laundry Day tots. Open for other opinions.

Ok so habang naglalaba, I remembered this post or message na nabasa ko. Hindi ko na maalala kung shared post ba siya and if a friend or someone else yung nagpost basta it goes something like,

Ayaw niyang mag-anak kasi ayaw niyang mag-give birth sa bata na ayaw naman mabuhay.

That's not how exactly it was worded, ganyan lang pagkakatanda ko and gets naman yung thought diba.

So naisip ko lang, if everyone will have a mindset na ganyan, there'll be no mothers kasi diba we assume now na ang automatic response ay NO. Like silence doesn't mean yes ganon baga.

So yung mga uhm, gustong maging mother, they'll be anxious na kasi possibly, baka maisip nila na, "what if ayaw pala ng anak ko mabuhay" ganon.

So naisip ko, okay, child doesn't want to be born. That's the uhm baseline ganon. That's the starting point. That's what we have in mind pero ano, as mothers or parents and ppl of the society, we give them reasons to continue living as they grow.

Kasi you see, ppl na nagsasabi ngayon ng "ayaw ko naman mabuhay in the first place" are ppl na possibly uhm, hindi maganda yung nakalakihan na environment as a child or uhm may mga nag-aalaga sa kanila na hindi na gampanan ng maayos ang role nila. So as they grow, wala silang makitang reason or inspiration to continue living.

So uhm, what I'm trying to say is that yung thought of ppl of not wanting to be born, it is probably a result (one of the many other reasons) of poor parenting. So as adults of this generation, those who're planning to become a parent, should be ready talaga when making this decision. Dapat hindi lang PHYSICALLY ready na porket you are at the right age of becoming a parent na, you'll bear a child na. You should also be EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY, and FINANCIALLY ready to support the child.

What do you mean na EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY, and FINANCIALLY ready?

Some siguro ito, mababaw lang yung ibang reasons but I think relevant naman.

Dapat naenjoy mo na yung career life mo. Because if not, you'll just blame your child like, "itinigil ko ang pagt-trabaho para maalagaan ka"

Maybe, naachieve mo na yung travel goals mo kasi you'll just blame the child again like, "I can't travel because I have to take care of you"

Nakapagpundar na ng house and may savings na because child bearing and raising is magastos.

You are able to love yourself so you'll be able to love your child

[chertinlum]

Sumasagot ako kasi nagtatanong ka. 😒