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07/06/2026 Jean-Luc Picard @SpaceDadSupport Incoming Transmission…

Many of you were taught from childhood to be a willing doormat and then subsequently rewarded for continuing that behaviour while being punished for any attempt to rise up. But you cannot stay like that. You must rise up. Find support and rise up. Your life depends on it.

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I have to let people know when I’m not feeling good. I shouldn’t expect people to know something is wrong with me.

Affirmation of the day.

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30 days!!!

I am 30 days sober!!! I can hardly believe it! It's been years since I've seen that many days strung together without a drink. When I reflect, which I have done much of in recovery, I'm in shock at how much happier I have been. At the beginning of this year I never thought I could experience this much joy in life without alcohol. I was so miserable but I never once tried to deal with my emotions. I just drank more. And in turn I became even more depressed. I was an awful friend who yelled at people and acted inappropriately. I lied to my family. I hurt myself (going to the doctor on Monday... kinda nervous). I drank so much that I would hallucinate at times. I would skip out on responsibilities to drink. I would ditch my pals. I was hungover and unable to do a thing. I drank at the desk. I spent so much time just passing out in a drunken stupor. How did I ever think this was a life worth living? I would see this pattern of drinking in excess to where it was ruining my life, stop for a while, and return to it just to repeat the pattern again. Literal insanity. In all my other sober periods, I never once tried to better myself. I never once learned other means of coping or other means of enjoyment. That's what different this time. I found a support group (stopdrinking on Reddit is LIFE guys), I bought a self help book, I have done other things besides hit the bar (saw the most awesome jazz show omg), I bought a book on alcohol and addiction. And I have wholly embraced that drinking is not glorious or the epitome of what makes being an adult great. There's so much more to life than consuming poison everyday at 5pm until you can't walk straight. I'm not saying that you should quit drinking. If it's okay for you, then hey that's fine! But me? I'm done. I'm fucking done. It's time to live a life that is worth fucking living. The road to recovery is long but taking it one day at a time will get me through it. I look forward to life's challenges with a clear mind.

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PSA: Don't give up.

Please, don't give up, people. No matter what it is, no matter what you may believe, DON'T STOP. Chances are, you're already something to someone you don't know.

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Love your LGBTQ+ Kids: other organizations with with support!

Since Feb 14 is Valentine’s Day, this month we’re looking at ways to #LoveYourLGBTKids! This week we want to highlight ways to support your kiddo through external organizations and community events. A great way to start is reaching out to our own PFLAG, the first LGBT organization to unite families and children. Our greater Boston chapter is located physically in Waltham but also digitally at [email protected] and here.

Another great organization we often plug is the Trevor Project, a non-profit organization focused on prevention efforts for LGBT kids through hotline programming and outreach. Counselors can be reached 24/7 and are 100% confidential and free. They also provide support resources for better understanding LGBT kiddos. 

GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation) is another nationally recognized media organization that promotes allyship and matters of representation. They provide a great media guide (https://www.glaad.org/resources) with extensive yet easily understandable information about efforts for better representation. 

Another well known LGBT organization is the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), which focuses on legislative efforts supporting LGBT people. Their efforts cover a range of topics not just limited to sexuality (https://www.hrc.org/resources). They have various chapters all across the country. 

Sometimes a national organization is too big for the support your child needs. If this is the case, check out local community centers either in your town or nearest city. Often these centers are either focused exclusively on LGBT youth or are connected to these efforts in some way. They may host movie nights, social mixers to meet other LGBT folks, or provide great resources for getting involved. 

It’s important to remember that the best support starts at home. Checking-in with your LGBT kiddo, actively supporting LGBT efforts, and creating a safe space for self-expression are great ways to show up as an ally. Creating a welcoming environment allows LGBT to flourish and thrive in their identities.

We hope this thread helps you feel empowered to support LGBTQ+ kids! So we can continue bringing you these tips, please consider donating to our cause! give.gbpflag.org/givenow

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Staying Positive During Serious Illness

It's often difficult to come to terms with the news of a serious illness. You may feel vulnerable as you try to make sense of the situation. Once diagnosis has sunk in though tackling your illness head-on helps you to remain positive.

When you’re told you have a serious illness it can come as a shock. More so if you’re someone who maintains a high level of health. Being diagnosed with a condition, disease or ailment that sets back your health is news that no one wants to receive. However, while this news is confronting, staying positive during serious illness is essential to managing your condition in the best possible way.…

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“Who do you want to look hot for? You have me!”

Umm, ok, but I don’t want to lose weight to “look hot.” Without delving into the implied “stay fat because then you’ll stay with me” from that sentence, I want to lose weight because my knees already sound like Rice Crispies and my poundage will mean a total knee replacement at an early age. I want to lose weight because I’m tired of my medical concerns being written off with “well, it wouldn’t be a problem if you weren’t over weight.” I want to lose weight because I don’t want to cross the border of borderline diabetic into diabetic. I want to lose weight because I am tired of being winded going up stairs and tired of my legs and feet aching after work.

I am tired of asking for some support and having that person sabotage me. “I brought home McDonalds so you don’t have to cook.” “I went grocery shopping and got a bunch of stuff you like so you don’t have to go.” “Don’t worry about it, you’re fine, have another piece of pizza.” “I don’t know that you’d like that, maybe just make mac and cheese instead.” “Why are you eating rabbit food; I’ll make you some potatoes.”

I gained a ton of weight. And it was “ok” because I “already had a partner and don’t need to look good for anyone else.” But it wasn’t ok. I needed meds and couldn’t participate in things. Clothing became full of Xs in the labels and I felt self conscious all the time. It wasn’t that I wanted to look good for anyone else. I wanted to feel better physically and mentally. But for a long time I allowed someone to tell me that as long as I had them, it didn’t matter because they didn’t care how I looked. Which ignored the main issues entirely but because someone “wanted” me, I just kinda let it go.

I don’t talk to that person any more.

Now I have some support. I have lost almost 40 pounds since the beginning of June. My body isn’t as big a wreck after a work night as it was. I’m off two medications. I can go up stairs and at least keep walking instead of stopping to pant. Do I look better? I don’t think so. Do I feel better? Damn skippy. And that’s the most important piece.

Tell the people that want to hold you back/tie you to them/tell you you’re fine how you are because they’re fine with it to go take a long walk off a short pier. Find someone who will help you. Who will share easy, interesting recipes that aren’t 1,000 calories of pizza. Who will help you keep on track and tell you to not give up if you make a bad decision or two about what you eat.

Then go back to the doc and say, “Yeah, I’ve lost weight and _____ is still an issue. Wanna help me now or should I find a new provider.”