#flophudson

[amethystarcher]

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yeah, it’s probably a lot like the use of “they” for people of unknown gender (or as a preferred pronoun). nothing really WRONG with it, but it sounds awkward because we’re not used to it

Yeah, I guess so. "They" usually is awkward for me unless I'm talking about an unidentified (not unknown gender) person or a broad example. If I'm talking about a specific person, "they" usually does feel awkward even though it's perfectly acceptable and often times the best word. One of the problems with "man privilege" is that its language seems to suggest that it only to encompasses grown men, but boys benefit from it too.

[amethystarcher]

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oh, i know what you mean. tbh i never really thought about “male privilege” in that sense. urg, i don’t really know how you would fix that either. like it’s “perceived as male” privilege, but… that still sounds kind of skeevy

Yeah, I'm grossly ignorant of how much this has been discussed, but I feel like a lot of replacement phrases or words have good and bad that could easily come with them. Like "perceived-as-male" privilege I can see right away people going, "oh that person who identifies as a woman looked manly to me so she must have 'perceived-as-male' privilege" or some bullshit like that, but I guess that could come with almost anything else too. IDK, I've thought about using the term "man-privilege" before and just using man as an adjective. It's kind of awkward-sounding to me, but maybe that's because I haven't used it at all.

[amethystarcher]

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male/female-identifying? i’m not sure if that’s the word form you mean

I mean like the colloquial use of the words "male" and "female" in general seem to be kind of excluding because people will say "male privilege," etc., when "male" is often linked to the idea of physical sex rather than gender identity, and I don't really have a good word to replace male? I can certainly reword things; I just don't have a good idea if there's a less cissexist way to use the adjective form of "man." Maybe "male" and "female" are okay to use in many instances because I know that many people do identify with those terms as well, and I'm just over-thinking. I just worry that it's problematic because my gut tells me that, and to avoid doing something problematic, I try to refrain from doing things I think might be.

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gropeitgroff said: hibernating in grad school work??

I guess sort of, more like wallowing in like self pity and love for some random boy who treats me like craaaaap yeah that whole denver boy thing is going poorly

flophudson said: l m a o ilu

thank god love you too

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sevenminuteembrace said: welcome back omg what were you doing all this time, having a life?

no not really

I've been playing a lot of yukon solitaire because I'm stupid

and then I realized that tumblr is better than yukon solitaire

flophudson said: lol omfg you are adorable and i’m fine but i’ve also been pretty much dead on here, smh

omg yes I'm not the only one hallelujah jesus is real 

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omg rob miss you darling how's your life been??

been gone so long can't figure out how to reply to your post 

tragic