a lesson on how NOT to be white
tumblr user maidsonas (twitter user franielkun) demonstrates how not to be white. step one:
this is for context. i’m not... any of these things. so i can’t speak on that. but after that, the trouble starts.
this is like. the worst response you can possibly give. HOW is this ok?? how do you even begin to be this much of a racist dick? the ask is pretty polite, too, all things considered.
let’s move on.
???.... um.... one of the most lukewarm “apologies” i’ve ever seen. another!!
.... do you though? you haven’t really explained. OR, UM, APOLOGIZED!!!! you ONLY apologized for the DISMISSIVE ANSWER YOU GAVE that WASN’T an apology OR an understanding!!!
FINALLY, step 4, after MULTIPLE POLITE ASKS:
WAIT THAT STILL ISN’T REALLY AN APOLOGY. WHAT THE FUCK.
but it gets better kids.
so.
let’s break this down.
to me, a white person? the word “wasian” DEFINITELY looks... iffy. something i, a WHITE PERSON MUCH LIKE FRAN, should NOT be using. here is, presumably (for the moment) a mixed-race asian person telling a white person not to use this word. fran has used this word several times on twitter aswell.
what do we think about this response? well, to me, it SOUNDS ABOUT WHITE.
so let’s see the fallout from this.
“i’ve heard nothing but positive feedback.” okay. so, this is criticism. positive feedback does not make you immune to criticism. ALSO, STILL NOT APOLOGIZING. AT ALL. NOWHERE IN THIS ASK OR THE PREVIOUS DID THEY APOLOGIZE. AT ALL.
do you get it? do you, fran?
so now. FINALLY. the previous anon fires back. and they are rightly PISSED.
ok. so. let’s break this down. they admit RIGHT HERE that they have ONLY HEARD IT USED BY MIXED ASIANS TO DESCRIBE THEMSELVES. YEAH. ....and then you just decided to use it? what the fuck is wrong with your head!? and “i had no idea it was offensive?” THEY JUST FUCKING TOLD YOU AND YOUR ANSWER WAS “are you sure??????”
ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME, CHILD.
the saga doesn’t end here, though. here’s a tweet they posted shortly after this debacle.
so. first off. asking a question THEY’VE BEEN GIVEN THE ANSWER TO, TWICE, BY A MIXED-RACE ASIAN PERSON. obviously this is just speculation, but to me? kinda seems like they’re looking for a bone to be thrown and for someone to offer them a nice “no no you’re okay! that anon didn’t speak for all of us!” furthermore, the apology should be THE FIRST THING IN THE TWEET, and it SHOULDN’T be a “sorry if i offended anyone.” it should be “i’m sorry.” PERIOD. FOR USING A WORD YOU WERE TOLD WAS OFFENSIVE.
BUT WAIT, THERE’S STILL MORE. a sweet apology from an unrelated party uwu:
granted this isn’t on fran, it’s on the anon. i don’t know if this anon is actually a mixed-race asian or not. BUT. they are wrong. yes, people should be informed. but you know what fran did when they were informed? THEY ASKED “are you sure???????” TO A MEMBER OF A MARGINALIZED GROUP. AND IT TOOK THEM TWO MORE ASKS TO EVEN APOLOGIZE. nope, sorry. anon was TOTALLY in their rights to be upset.
some additional ways on how to NOT be white:
haha what a funny word!! hahahaha it’s so funny i didn’t even look it up or ask any real mixed asian people if it was derogatory hahaha!!
unfortunately. there is even more.
granted, these aren’t directly related to the rest of the incident. but they’re some “”fun”” extracurricular learning activities on further ways to not be white.
i call this one “do as i say, not as i do”:
also known as a subset of performative activism. another great example of performative activism is this!
i... don’t even think i really need to explain how weird this is, but seeing as fran apparently saw nothing wrong with it, i’ll try. “sobbing in my mother’s arms.” if you did that, great. why tell the world about it? why, AS A WHITE PERSON, would you make this big, grandiose post about just how HORRIBLE it is for YOU, a WHITE TEENAGER, to see these TERRIBLE things?? how it’s taking such a DEVASTATING TOLL on YOUR mental health?
in closing: if you are white. please don’t be like this. don’t pour all your energy into preachy and performative shows of fake-wokeness and then DISMISS ACTUAL WORRIES from ACTUAL POC.
oh. and one more tweet of theirs. from. today. note the kakyoin ask from above and how they decry “wanting attention.”
that will be all.
...for now. truthfully, this person has done more shitty things, but i wanted to keep this post mainly about their hypocrisy, performative activism, and good old blatant white liberal racism.
and i really don’t think i should have to remind anyone of this, but don’t harass this person. that won’t get anyone anywhere. simply block, don’t interact, and most importantly, DON’T DO SHIT LIKE THIS.