I have a friend and sometimes she is THE WORST objectly speaking not just for me, she would be THE WORST to anyone. She has a very specific personality it's a bit hard to describe but I'll try. Hopefully you guys can help me find out if she has any specific disorder that makes her due this? I just want her to stop the bad things she's doing and only continue doing the good things because when she is kind she is super sweet but all of a sudden she changed from out of the blue...
So to begin with when she is NOT MEAN she behaves kind of like this:
-Constantly apologies even tho she haven't done anything wrong
-constantly thinks that people hate her for no reason
- constantly think that she dosen't deserve to exist
She spamming theese things until it gets annoying and also you feel very sorry for her and wanna know how she could possibly think so bad of her self.
Then when she switches and have ACTUALLY done a bad thing towards you for real she
-dosen't apologies at all never in a million years
- she claims "she has done nothing wrong" and she keeps on saying it even if you have proof
-she gets sadistic and enjoy when someone else is sad because of her
-she littelary does the 'evil laugh'thing that villans from shows do
- she dues stuff on purpouse that hurt you like: spoiling movie or game endings of things she knows you like, if you're playing a game together on a server she deletes the server and everything you created together so it's all gone, and she does theese things without telling you until after it's happened.
- she gets really cocky and selfish saying things like "It's only a game we can just rebuild it all" (even tho it took days to build it to begin with and I did the most part to begin with)
"I'm going to change our game server into this version instead and I'm gonna do it wether you like it or not"
(You proceed to tell her that this makes you sad)
She says "I'm still gonna do it"
And it's like that, when she makes you sad and you try to explain that you not only get a tiny bit sad from her constantly hurting you like this but that you get REALLY hurt to the point where you cry multiple times from having a friend that randomly goes sadistic at times and just wanna hurt you on purpouse and not by accident (because she's littelary explained it when she is in her nice mood that she does it on purpouse to hurt and she likes it) she still shows in that moment when she is in her mean mood that she dosent care I've even told her one time that I was visited by an ambulance because I didn't feel well and she still didn't care because she was in her sadistic mood then and I told her 3 times so it shouldn't have been missed..
But when she is in her nice mood she cares for me and especially if someone else has hurt me or made me sad she actually gets angry for my sake and worried and tells me I can call anytime and that she's always here etc etc.
But it's so weird it's kind of like she is night and day.
I know she has autism but I also have autism and I feel like this is more than autism she must have something more ontop of it some other diagnose or something.
It seems like it's gotten worse lately too...it's a toxic relationship but she's also like almost a younger sister we've been friends most part of our life's.
I need advice.
